Ugh, just needed a quick vent. Last night my FI's brother called him and point blank asked if we were paying for his tuxedo rental. He said he needed to know immediately. He went on to say that it was traditional for the groom to pay for the best man and that's what he should do. I 100% know that his wife is the main reason he called to ask this because FI could hear her in the background of the call. FI is extremely nice and said we would probably pay half of it after that pressure.
I have always expected and have paid for BM dresses when a bridesmaid, that is the American tradition. My FI was his brother's best man a few years ago and they did not pay for his suit/tuxedo. FI had to buy a $1000 brooks brothers suit himself.
This isn't about them having money troubles. If it were, we would gladly help. It just seems like they want to create an issue for drama's sake. Why would anyone think it's ok to call and insist on this so-called tradition and make us feel guilty?
