Best Friend/Bridesmaid issues

Be supportive and tell her you won't be upset with her feeling this way because you also want her to be happy. She is going through a phase, there may be little you can do about it. Even if she is showing signs of jealously the early you address it the better. Tell her she needs to be happy to attract a good man.

Wow.. Honestly if you two can talk about anything I'm sure that it won't be too difficult to tell her how you truly feel. Tell her you understand that it can be hard watching someone get married when you are single. I mean, we've all been there. Maybe not the marriage part--but we've all watched a happy couple and were upset about being lonely. Ask her to just watch herself because this is the biggest time of your life and you don't want to remember it by her attitude. She'll feel silly afterward anyway and probably guilty, too. Sometimes direct confrontation and not holding any of your feelings back works best. Just asking her whats wrong won't do anything because she'll just keep saying "idk." You don't want to lose her over this so talking to her about it will be a lot better than keeping it bottled up.

It sounds like she could be literally, clinically depressed as a friend, try to spend time with her doing something she enjoys that is not wedding-related. If she is still sad doing that, and you feel comfortable, it may be a good idea to ask if she would consider seeing a doctor about it. Most depression goes untreated, needlessly, and it may take the concern of a friend to push her to take care of herself.

Thanks I have been surprised because I have been with my fiance for several years and she has never acted like this. When I have talked to her about her attitude towards me, she has apologized but also said I mistook her and she was just in a mood. I don't dare talk about the wedding and that makes it hard when the planning takes up so much of my time right now. I suggested she see a professional because she was saying she may need me to come get her out of bed (she is already on an antidepressant) and she went to a few appointments but stopped going. She told me the therapist said to try and make new friends and to accept that it's ok when people change and friendships grow apart. I feel like she is always passive aggressive with me and it is just something I never expected from her after all the years we have been friends.

Wow.. Do you think maybe she's hinting that she doesn't want to be your bridesmaid anymore? I mean with the "new friends" comment

I hope not. She has already purchased her dress and says she can't wait until the wedding yet if the wedding comes up, she seems to change the subject. I try not to talk about it with her. A few weeks ago I said something about my fiance not taking out the trash and it turned into a tiarade about how she is single and has to take out her own trash and wash her own dishes so imagine how she feels. I just feel like I can't say anything about my fiance or wedding and it upsets her.

I really don't think it's anything personal towards you

That is sort of a strange thing for her doctor to say, and my guess is she probably didn't feel like he was very helpful, otherwise she wouldn't have stopped going. She may need to find someone new.

I know this must be very hard on you, and I'm not trying to say she's not responsible for the things she says, but I would be surprised if she truly meant them. Do you have any close mutual friends who could also talk to her? It sounds like she needs help, but that shouldn't be on your shoulders alone.

I assume the therapist meant go meet guys or girlfriends who know single guys. Otherwise I think I would be annoyed hearing that when she has a great friend! Throw a party for her and invite single dudes or something!

Thanks I am trying not to take it personal but it has gotten hard not to. She actually talked to another friend of mine, who has dealt with depression in the past. She told her she needed help and to see a therapist also and I think that helped push her towards making that first appointment but it hasn't seemed to help like I hoped it would.