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Savvy December 2020

Becoming Anxious Too Early

Soon To Be a Melendez, on June 2, 2020 at 8:09 AM Posted in Planning 0 30
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My wedding is December 19, 2020 and I'm getting flowers for the bouquets, cake set servers, etc. People in my wedding just feel like I'm starting too early and I feel like they dont care....Did anyone or does anyone feel like this?

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Latest activity by Anna, on June 3, 2020 at 11:18 AM
  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I don't think it's necessarily too early - you're just excited! As long as you have space to store those things, I think it's fine. I'm a sale person - when I find something on sale I get it early to avoid spending more money later on, so I've definitely booked/ordered some things earlier than I needed to.

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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    It’s not too early for you to plan or buy stuff, but other people won’t start getting excited until it gets closer.
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  • Soon To Be a Melendez
    Savvy December 2020
    Soon To Be a Melendez ·
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    I'm just like this!! The sales are really good right now!!!
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  • Corinne
    Beginner November 2020
    Corinne ·
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    I started planning way in advance! What matters is your happiness. But I came to realize that people won't get excited as the bride until it is much closer to the wedding day. I had almost all my vendors picked more than 6 months in advance.

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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    It’s not too early. IMO, it’s better to get this stuff taken care of early not only to snag the deals, but to have peace of mind and not bottleneck planning details the few weeks prior to the wedding. Having your ducks in a row is much better for you than frantic last minute bookings.


    I personally had my October 2020 wedding stuff mostly planned out back in February and when this shutdown happened I was glad I had that stuff taken care of with all the rescheduling brides moving dates to fall too.
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  • RaylaSan
    Expert February 2021
    RaylaSan ·
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    It's never too early when it comes to wedding planning.
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I know!! I found stationary for 75% off! It was crazy, we saved over $1000!

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  • Kim
    Savvy October 2020
    Kim ·
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    You do what makes you feel comfortable. I know so many brides that become a bridezilla because time is getting short and there is so much to do it becomes overwhelming.
    My FH and I got engaged on 9/6/19 and we are getting married on 10/10/20. We started planning the wedding on 9/7/19, lol.
    I now have everything done. Attire, venue, decorations, music, food, cake, officiant, etc. The only thing I have to do right now is address and send out the invitations. I'm not stressed and it's been a rather enjoyable experience and we are DIY.
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  • Kim
    Savvy October 2020
    Kim ·
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    To add to it, when I found out how many were planning the same date in my area I was so relieved I had my venue, cake and food all booked back in December . Then the pandemic happened and the spring brides started moving their date to the fall as well.
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  • Trisha
    Dedicated September 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Girl I got engaged in November 2018, I started buying stuff back then. I am getting married in September. It helps in the long run! Especially if it's on sale!
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    You're getting married this December, right? It's definitely not too early to start planning. We started planning shortly after we were engaged and so glad we did because we changed our mind 3 times regarding location. The only thing that never changed was our date. We found our venue late (February this year) and were lucky to get it and have been waiting since February for our contract, then the world shut down... we are at a pause on our wedding planning until we have our contract signed (the venue / island just reopened yesterday). I already called today and still waiting on our contract....

    It's never too early to plan, just be prepared you may end up changed things.

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  • Brenda
    Savvy August 2020
    Brenda ·
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    No one will ever be as excited as yourself and your partner. I started planning 11 months in advance. Once I got all the vendors booked I started working on the small details and turned my spare bedroom into my wedding room. I've had just about everything done for the past 5 months and now I just add things I want extra because I have time. So as long as you have space, I say you go full force and continue being excited! Smiley smile

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think that's too early to start planning, at all.

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  • Keirstin
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Keirstin ·
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    My wedding isn’t until August 2021 but I’ve started looking into this stuff because I’m a planner and like to be prepared! Nothing wrong with starting early!
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  • Soon To Be a Melendez
    Savvy December 2020
    Soon To Be a Melendez ·
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    Thanks so much ladies!! I'm just so excited!!!
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    It’s not too early. from my experience, when you tell people you’re wedding planning more than 6 months before your wedding, they tell you it’s too early. When you tell them you’re doing wedding stuff less than 3 months from your wedding, that turns into a judgy “OH. That’s... soon. You’re not done planning yet...?”



    Apparently there’s only a 3 month window where it’s not too early or too late to be planning? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Lol. Just do your thing! Don’t worry about what other people say.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    Girl, I got all of those things done except my bouquet (we’re using fresh real flowers) in late 2019 and my wedding is in 2021. I literally have nothing left to do but assemble my favors, plan my bridal shower and mail my invitations when the time comes. I wanted as little stress/work in the months leading up to my wedding, so I got everything done as early as possible. My save the dates are going out this week. I’m all for getting as much done as early as possible. Don't worry about people not being excited. Most are going through a lot right now and no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Just put all your positive energy into your wedding and have fun planning your forever.
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  • Kayse
    Expert December 2020
    Kayse ·
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    We are wedding date twins!! I have noticed that people don't really ask me about it, but oh well. These forums help a lot. Plus the world is so crazy right now I think a lot of people are just anxious and scared and sad all the time. Best of luck to you! Don't let anyone steal your joy.

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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    I got engaged in April of 2018 and after my husband and I agreed on our budget, I starting buying things at the beginning of May - right after we booked our venue. I DIYed a lot of our wedding stuff and bought things I would need or décor I wanted for the wedding when I saw them on sale. I don't think it's ever too early to start buying things for your wedding. My husband and I have a spare room in our home and that's where we kept the wedding stuff until I needed it.


    The only thing I waited on was ordering our save the dates and wedding invitations because I kept going back and forth between two options for each and couldn't decide, lol. I finally decided and bought them right then so I couldn't change my mind.

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  • Alexis
    Savvy May 2021
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    It is not early at all! I'm not getting married until March 6th, 2021. I have venue, florist, DJ, photographer all booked. Also have an idea for my make up artist as well. I feel like it is best to book people ahead of time so you know you have them for your date. That is why I booked so early. I had everyone (minus the florist) booked by February. I haven't started buying decorations yet, simply because I have no idea where to put it! Lol.

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