Battle of the Lamest RSVP Excuses

Honestly I understand if people can't make it, just let us know and move on. Why the need to make an elaborate excuse?

We haven't really had any lame excuses, just a few vacation regrets.

The most interesting (but totally understandable) RSVP we got was from my cousin and pretty much said 'We'll happily be there unless something pops up, since as you know your wedding is very close to my due date.' Which is pretty much the most acceptable reason to cancel last minute that I can think of lol.

I think, "I don't want to" is a perfectly fine excuse, though I probably wouldn't actually say that, lol.

My matron of honor already told me she isn't coming to my wedding (it's a YEAR away!) because she will have a four month old by then........ It actually devastated me. We've been best friends for 12 years.

Jackie you are super early - have you sent out invites?

How about I'm going to be in Australia.... She had the wedding date an time 3 months before she booked the flight.

My uncle sent me an email. He won't be there because he is "too old."

My stepmom told me a month in advance that she couldn't come to the rehearsal dinner because a friend was coming in out of town for a funeral (? a month in advance?) and they were going to meet up for dinner.

We had 3 good ones:

1) Similar to OP, where FH's aunt from Georgia (we are getting married in NY) canceled because "I have a doctor's appointment that day that I have already canceled twice, so I can't cancel it again!". Umm okay...you got a Save the Date 8 months ago.

2) Another one of FH's aunts from Georgia canceled because "it's too expensive to fly up for it". They live in a multi-million dollar mansion and think nothing of taking fancy international trips at the last minute. FFIL thinks it's because she doesn't want to deal with the rest of the family right now (there is some feuding going on over a deceased relative and his assets).

3) One of FH's cousins didn't RSVP because he "didn't realize he was invited, and thought we were having a small wedding." He received a Save The Date and an Invitation addressed solely to him. *facepalm* I just found out this week that this is person is (seriously) a Trump supporter, which explains a lot. He is coming to the wedding though, once FH told him that he most definitely was invited.

I only had a few declines, mostly people at work who couldn't get the day off. One person made a huge deal about being invited to my wedding, I invited her, she RSVPed yes, I saw her 5 days before the wedding, and she just didn't show. A year later, she still hasn't contacted me to explain why she did that.

I was very bummed that my husband's parents couldn't come in from Europe. They said it was because their parents (1 from each side) are elderly and they need to talk to them on the phone everyday. Just in case they got too sick and died, they wanted to be there. It's been a year and both are still kicking. Honestly, I think they just didn't want to fly in because of the hassle of flying. I don't completely blame them, I hate traveling, but it was their sons wedding. I was disappointed, but don't hold a grudge or anything. They're so sweet and we get along really well, so it wasn't because they didn't like me :p

Received yesterday: "So sorry, my husband is playing music that night" he's not in a band or a Dj, so ummm. I dunno.

Two of FH's cousins are traveling. Another one usually doesn't come to weddings but his girlfriend likes going so we are waiting to hear if they will be joining us or not. FH's boss was going, but had to change is RSVP because they have family coming to visit that week and they have a 3 month old. I was kinda sad about that. The one that baffles me is my grandmother and her husband. They aren't coming because it is too far for them to travel. They went to my sister's wedding last year that was further away...so yeah. Also, my grandfather is in worse shape than her and is coming.

Overall, all the declines are working out though. When we originally started planning and booked our caterer we figured 65 people but then expanded our guest list (before invites went out) and assumed we would pay more. Now it looks like we may actually be having fewer people than or original estimate and can save some money.

I had someone not respond to our RSVP because they thought I was marrying someone else that they didn't care for and was offended that they received an invitation. Then once they realized who I was marrying, they attempted to RSVP for themselves and their children. Ummm, you got the invite, you know who was invited and your children were not included.

Margaret, maybe he's turning on the radio!!!

We haven't sent out invitations out yet. Monday they should be going out. after reading these I can't wait to see what excuses I get. These have definitely given me a good laugh!

I didn't get too many weird excuses, but I also didn't get a lot of RSVPs, even after sending some follow-up emails. Even from people who I know 100% will be there. I know they probably figure it's obvious, but we're offering that people can stay and camp after, so we do still want to know from people if they're coming just for the wedding or staying later. I was a little disappointed that my childhood best friend just totally didn't respond whatsoever.

Haven't sent on invites yet. We had a few declines when we sent out STDs, due to distance and new babies. But the stories on here are why I hope the people not coming just check the box.

@KDs, exactly! I'd rather no excuse than one that is clearly a lie or TMI.

@JPB808, I hope your grandfather's recovery goes smoothly.

"We just received our (military) orders that we're going to have to move in March so things are going to be crazy." They're moving in March 2017, our wedding is in August 2016. The sad thing is I was a bridesmaid in her wedding; had I known, I never would have agreed to be a bridesmaid and spend all the time and money on her (she was a Bridezilla and the experience turned me off to bridesmaids).

My husbands aunt rang about two weeks before the wedding to say that her husband wouldn't make it,only her, as one of their cows would be calving!!!!!! (they are small farmers) my MIL wasn't impressed, we thought it was odd, and got on with it, sure the bloody cow could have calved at any time, I don't think she was actually waiting for a specific day.. Lol.. Haha...they could have just said, uncle can't make it,instead of making up a silly excuse..only in Ireland!!!

@minerva the same thing happened to me. My very close college friend politely declined- mostly due to her being very religious and my wedding is a same-sex, interfaith marriage. But it really stung that there was no acknowledgement or note sent with the RSVP. Also, you and I have the same wedding date- so holla at the August 6th weddings!

Also, my uncle won't attend because he has no money, lives really far away, and is now angry with and started a serious feud with my mother for not paying for him to fly out and put him up in a hotel. No one's responsibility but his own!

@Kimi

My aunt gave me the same lame excuse about her anniversary and we notified ppl of our date in February. However she made a big deal about her son/ my cousin who wasn't initially invited. Needless to say she declined ( I really dont care) and I think my cousin hasn't responded because im sure he knows he wasn't initially invited ( still dont care).