Amanda
Master December 2020

Bad wedding day choice 🙅

Amanda, on October 20, 2019 at 10:01 AM Posted in Planning 0 18
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I just recently found out my wedding day is on "Pearl Harbor Day" the day that will live in infamy 😭 I have a history lover but don't remember dates well and didn't notice this until months after setting our date. FH found out pretty quick and didn't tell me as not to upset me. I know it's probubly not a huge deal, most people don't "celebrate" it or what not (like I would DIE if it was Sept 11th!) but it will kind of be a back thought forever 😒 Did anyone else choose a date and then find out it wasn't just a regular old date? 😜

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We chose the last Monday in March, 2017. While we were negotiating with the venue a corporate event booked the venue for the entire week so it moved it to the previous Monday... which ended up being Spring Equinox! Yay. 🌸
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  • Anna
    Rockstar June 2020
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    Think of it as honoring all those that lost their lives that day.
    I would go ahead as planned.
    Honestly , most days have had bad events occur on them, we just must carry on and I think it will be a way memorialize that day with a happy event❤
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  • Anna
    Rockstar June 2020
    Anna ·
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    Ps my wedding date is "D" day.
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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
    Melle Online ·
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    We chose my best friend's birthday. My husband chose it because it was kinda the day that worked best for him
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    Because my dad was a WWII vet, December 7, has always been an important day of remembrance in my family. However, we wouldn't find it weird to attend a happy celebration on the date. Since it was so long ago now, the "collective memory" is very different at this point than a date like September 11 is to current generations. If your families have a history of military service, you could include a very subtle "nod" to recognizing those who have given so much for the rest of us, but if not, I certainly don't think anyone will think twice about it. Smiley heart

    PS -- our anniversary is Summer Solstice, which we never thought about until in the early years of our marriage, we lived in a community that had a major parade/celebration. That made it kind of cool to celebrate our anniversary because all our friends were totally up for a party! Smiley winking

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  • Eri
    Expert October 2020
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    Agree with the PPs, especially MOB.

    I wouldn't worry about it! Smiley heart

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  • Lauren
    Dedicated December 2019
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    Our date is Pearl Harbor day. We chose the date because we wanted late Nov/early Dec and it was the one that worked best for us. Honestly, only like 2 people have made a comment about it, I wouldn’t put too much stress on yourself over it.
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  • Rhianna
    Devoted April 2020
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    We set the date and then I realized it was the date before my friends wedding but the year after (so the day before her 1 year anniversary). I didn't even realize until she made a joke, and I was IN her wedding this year. She wasn't upset by any means but it didn't even dawn on me. It's also one of my bridesmaids birthday, which I did know of when booking lol. The date worked for us so that's what we went with.

    It's not like there's an infinite number of dates to choose from, so think of that date at yours. There's something historical or significant for every day of the year. I wouldn't worry about it Smiley smile
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  • L
    Savvy December 2019
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    We are Dec 7th and haven't thought twice about it. Also people remember the upcoming date easily Smiley smile

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  • Taylor
    Rockstar October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    My Granny's birthday is December 7th. She was actually born ON pearl harbor day in 1941. Good things happened that day too. I wouldn't think twice about it!

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  • Lauren
    Rockstar February 2020
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    We, actually, chose our wedding date because of its unique day. We're getting married on Leap Day! I totally agree with others that it's fine to have happy events on days memorialized for bad events.

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    Thanks! Smiley smile
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Thats fun!
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Thats very true. Maybe at my memory table I could put a nod to them Smiley smile thanks and that is a cool anniversary!
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    Ok cool! Thx
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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    Very true, thats how I was taking it was that there are barely any "free" days now and it happened so long ago. I may just put a nod on my memory table since we will have a few current/past military men
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I wouldn't worry. A ton of my family has been in the military or is active with veterans, including my husband, and a wedding on that day wouldn't stop us from going. We went to a wedding on 9/11 and I didn't feel like it clouded the day at all.

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  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
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    Don't even worry about it!! My first nephew (I have 4!) was born on December 7, 2001, which was the 60th anniversary of the attack on Pearl Harbor. But his birth proves that good things have happened on that day too!!

    I really like the suggestion of honoring those who served and/or gave their lives on that day. I would do that, if it was my wedding day!!

    Rejoice and celebrate your date!!

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