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Just Said Yes June 2017

Bad Maid of Honor Speech

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Jane, on June 30, 2017 at 5:44 PM

Hi all- I need a little advice for dealing with the fallout of my wedding. My MOH have been friends since college, about 10 years. At the wedding, she got up and gave a terribly cringeworthy speech. From talking about and naming a specific guy we both liked when we met, to how she didn't like my...

Hi all-

I need a little advice for dealing with the fallout of my wedding.

My MOH have been friends since college, about 10 years.

At the wedding, she got up and gave a terribly cringeworthy speech. From talking about and naming a specific guy we both liked when we met, to how she didn't like my groom at first when she met him, to discussing very intimate moments I shared with her about doubts about my relationship with groom several years ago. Her point was pure, in that basically she had come around to liking him and supporting our relationship, but it was incredibly embarrassing and upsetting as she aired this dirty laundry.

I realized that I am not sure if she actually even likes us. As we were surrounded by all this love from our family and friends, it made me wonder if she even sees what is good about me and my now husband, and if instead she just sees stories we share.

I know she feels bad about the speech but how should I proceed here? Still upset and embarrassed.

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HRKeaysToBe · on July 1, 2017 at 12:39 PM
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Reason #27 why I'm not having a WP and reason #36 why I will designate only one person I trust to do a toast. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I would be mortified. I would let it go since it's done. Maybe she just didn't see it as a bad thing. If she had malicious intentions, that's a different story. But sounds like she was just clueless.
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2nd Time's the Charm · on July 2, 2017 at 9:30 AM
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The friendship will fall away or improve, all on its own, so you don't really need to put any effort into that. As to your wedding, I'm sure the other 99% of your day was wonderful, so when you begin selecting your photos and/or video clips, do not include anything at all that will remind you of your feelings around her words. That one negative piece will drift away from your memory. If you leave it in, it will always eat at you.
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