Bad Maid of Honor Speech

Oh shit. This is bad. So basically all you can do is move on really. Talking about it will most certainly end the friendship but if you must feel free.

Oh and like Celia said, rethink her as a friend. I get that her intentions may have been pure, but unless she was stone cold drunk, her speech content was unacceptable. You don't have to be an amazing speaker to be appropriate.

ETA: grammar and words

Nothing you can do the words have already been said just go on and get over it

If it makes you feel any better my brother got up at my mother's funeral and talked about Rainbows, cried and then sat down

Say nothing and move on.

I wouldn't do anything unless it's eating at you. Then just talk with her one on one

I don't think there's much more you can do

Distance yourself from her. If she comments again on her speech reply, " yah. What you said sucked." Then continue to distance yourself from her. She was asked to toast your marriage not share her opinion. Now you know how she really feels.

On a side note, this scenerio is all too familiar. I implore couples to keep the microphone to as few people as possible during your reception. If you do ask soneone to give a toast remind them that it is a TOAST not SPEECH.

Speeches need to go away. It is a toast.

Wow, I would be mortified. Unfortunately there's not much to do at this point, besides reevaluating your friendship. So sorry this happened to you.

Maybe she was nervous? If she hasn't done anything else to hurt you or groom then I'd let her know that your a little hurt but your working in letting it go. If you can't let go or she's done other things then it's time to distance the friendship. Good luck girlie.

I agree with Wendy. This does not sound like nerves at all. It sounds like she was being deliberately hurtful. I would probably distance myself from that friendship.

How embarrassing! I'd need an explanation if my MOH felt it was necessary and appropriate to bring up those things at my wedding. Sounds like she's either jealous or you two aren't as close as you thought you were.

I'm sorry. That sounds awful and uncomfortable. I have had a similar feeling about some people... it's made me regret sharing too much "relationship processing" with people I thought I could trust.

If you're still *very* close friends and see/talk to each other often, I would speak to her about it.

If you're not, then I would begin creating distance and look towards your future - not your past (which she seems to dwell on).

It's tough, but at some point there may be a mutual understanding.

Again, I'm so sorry.

It sounds like drunk talk...you know, the first thing to go is the judgment center of the brain. Was she reading from a prepared speech, or was she going off script? Had she had a few to drink? If so, while it may have sounded like sour notes to you, it might have sounded fine to her.

There's nothing you can do. How do you know she feels bad about the speech? Did you have a conversation about it?

How do you know she feels bad? Did she apologize?

It's hard for me to give advice without know what kind of friend she's been in the past. But if she's been iffy and you've had doubts about your friendship in the past, I'd say now is the time to distance yourself. If she's been a good friend and is sincerely apologetic, maybe she really doesn't know better. I've seen several really bad speeches, including one by a MOH that also started out with talking about how initially she didn't like the groom (and the bride was her sister). I don't know if it's nerves or what, but it seems like crappy speeches aren't uncommon. I'm sorry

I say let it go at this point. Some people get nervous when giving speeches. It sounds like she may have gotten nervous and all the wrong things came out. I'm assuming she know you were hurt by it, and if she is a real friend she is probably embrassed and upset she hurt you.

Should have cut her mic half way thru

Forgive and focus on your life with your husband.

Yes just let it go. I've heard some pretty bad ones. Most memorable was the MOH stated how close they were and would bump tacos together. It was mortifying.

Note to everyone else; it is possible to work out a signal with your dj to cut the mic.

Or ask to see the script ahead of time. I am a total control freak....

I'm terrible at giving speeches, but I would never say those things, especially at a wedding. I'm sorry, but "not everyone is good at speeches" is a bad excuse.

It's over now, though, and the only thing you can do is deal with your emotions and move on, and reevaluate your friendship with her.