I am annoyed. Livid, actually.
So, I have four bridesmaids. When I offered them the role of bridesmaids, we had a cute little party out of it but I also typed out a contract for them to sign. Nothing serious, but just basically that they would adhere to certain duties: contributing financially, helping with decorations and the like. Small things. I had each sign and date a contract, I laminated each one and put them in their own folder. Unbeknownst to them, I also kept a notepad in each one of their folders to note to myself how they were performing as bridesmaids individually. I would liken it to an "HR" type thing. And I decided that I would have an individual meeting with each one to discuss how I felt they were performing as bridesmaids.
One of the stipulations in the contract they signed, was that nobody was to get engaged or begin a new relationship in the 5 month time-frame we were planning my wedding. Well what do you know? One girl met someone new. They have propelled forward pretty fast and I am just livid about. I reminded her of the contract she signed stipulating that she would not get involved with someone new and she needs to break it off or I will take her to a court of law (I am a notary and notarized the contract). She basically laughed in my face and told me I was insane and has backed out of the wedding. I cannot believe this crap! I did not want new relationships because I felt I deserved the spotlight and attention. I did not want my happy-times overshadowed by someone cutting me off at brunch talking about their new date.
I am scheduling the Bridesmaid review with the remaining three girls, who are doing OK I guess, but I don't feel they are giving me their best. I want A+ effort, but it seems I am not a priority in their life. Your career, kids, husband etc will always be there but my wedding is once in a lifetime and I feel it should be main priority for at least this year.
I just needed to vent. Thanks.
