Bachlorette party Ideas: having an underage BM

I have the same issue, except it's not. I'm taking the day before the wedding, and taking the girls (I'm not having a BP) so it's my 2 oldest girls (19 and 17), my sons gf and her 2 daughters who are BFF's with my 2 youngest daughters. Anyway, I'm taking them to go get mani's and pedi's, then lunch where I'll give everyone their gifts. Afterward we're checking into a hotel, ordering pizza, and gonna watch some "bride" movies and play some silly games. Once we put the yung'ins to bed, were gonna break out some alcohol (it is legal for a child to drink in front of their parent or spouse in the state of TX under 21), some of the more funny, "adult" type games, and watch Magic Mike LOL And that's my cRaZy Bachelorette Party/Bridemaids lunch.

Whether the 18 year old can get into a bar depends on the bar's license and what your state/local laws are. You'll have to check with the individual bar to see. Or you could invite your FSIL to the dinner part of it but not the rest of it.

But it sounds like this isn't something you want to do regardless. I know you're not the one planning it, but I really hope your bridesmaids take your wishes into consideration!!

I don't think you are being rude by requesting that YOUR bachelorette not revolve around alcohol/bar hopping. ESPECIALLY since your biggest concern is including your 18 yr old BM. If anything, I think your MOH is rude for not taking your wishes into consideration.

I was a MOH for my best friend in February, and she had two underage BM's. I rented a big house in the mountains, we went to a nice girls dinner and when we came back I had a pure romance party for her. There was alcohol there, and we played games and did a lingerie grab bag for her. It was still a blast even though we didn't go bar hopping.

Bars will not let in underage patrons, unless that bar is also a restaurant and you sit in the restaurant section. Some clubs are 18 to party 21 to drink. However, I think more importantly- you are not into bar hopping! Find an alternative. Also, you could compromise and go out to dinner and THEN go out to a bar. This would include the FSIL in the dinner, and honestly she will just have to understand that she can't go out to the bar with you.

We may look into some clubs then, I'm not sure, I know my MOH and my other 2 BM (that are of age) want to go drinking, so maybe a club would be a good compromise. I wouldn't mind going to a club if it would allow FSIL (the 4th BM) to come and have a blast with us. That's what's important to me, I want her to come have fun too because she's like the little sister I never had and I love her to bits, I want her to be just as included as everyone else. (note: it wouldn't be just us 5, her mom and my mom would come, and probably a few of my cousins and aunts, I just want everyone to feel included)

I think you can. But I'm also helping plan my lol. I refuse for there to be any alcohol or strippers. So...it's not a typical bachelorette party. It's just not my thing. I wasn't even going have one until FSIL told me I needed to. So I got all of the BMs on board and we're all working together. I am give out ideas and they are running with it, I guess. Each BM has her own thing she is working on. I wouldn't have fun if we were doing much else, honestly.

If you are not into bar hopping I think that is something your MOH needs to take into consideration. Plus there are other ways that everyone can have fun as some of the other ladies mentioned. For two of my cousins' (different sides of the family) parties we did dinner and pole dancing classes. Alcohol could be added if you wanted. Better still, no one would feel left out.

I was in a similar situation as you in that a few of the girls invited to my bachelorette party will not be of legal drinking age (one is my FSIL who is 14...she's not a BM, but bcuz she can't make it to the wedding I want her to feel included as much as possible in the other wedding festivities). My MOH decided on doing a wine and canvas...you have to be 21 to drink, but any age can come to paint. And then afterwards we're doing a hotel party to hang by the pool and watch chick flicks all night - an old school slumber party. Other suggestions were doing an Inflatable 5K or mud run or going to Wisconsin Dells for a weekend (only a couple of hours from where I live).

@Ms P to Mrs P- I've seen a lot of the other suggestions, but most of my BP, and myself, don't have a lot of money to spare to go rent things out for the weekend., but I guess if we start saving now, that wouldn't be a problem O.o idk. I always thought the bride doesn't get much say in the bachlorette party, as long as there are no strippers, I'm pretty okay if everyone is included. Like I said, I don't mind the idea of bar hopping so much, it's just I don't want FSIL feeling left out

For mine, we went out to lunch and then to the beach for the afternoon, came back and went to a BM's house, had delicious snacky things for dinner, watched a movie and made strawberry daiquiris. They also had stuff to make fondue and popcorn balls, but we all fell asleep during the movie because we all had things to do the next day and were tired from the beach.

ETA: one of my BMs is Mormon, so they made her a virgin daiquiri, and another was underage. Also didn't cost very much money but it was lots of fun, maybe something like that would work for you?

The bride always has a say...unless they do it completely by surprise lol

I second everything Katherine said in the first posted reply! I have two underage bridesmaids (a cousin and FSIL), and just found out one of my friends who will likely attend the bachelorette party is pregnant! So we are going to get a cabin, do our own wine & painting activity, hang out by the lake, maybe a little wine tasting nearby, and just relaxing all weekend. I seriously cannot wait! And of course, the cabin will contain alcohol for those who want a few glasses

Honestly, I've been to two bachelorette parties. One was the 20-girl bar-hopping bus, and it was a disaster with everyone crazy drunk and crying by the end. The second bachelorette party I went to had just the BMs (including one underage) and we went indoor rock-climbing, planted flowers, ate pizza, and watched Pride & Prejudice. The second one was waaaay more fun, and we actually had a chance to get to know each other very well!

If you don't care for drinking that much, there are many other activities you can pursue that are fun for everyone!

I would hate for you to settle on bar-hopping and you get to bars/clubs and they tell your your underage BM can't come in. I feel like you'd spend more time finding a place that would let her in than you would actually going out.

We had awesome food, watched a fun chick flick movie, and did our nails. The party was planned by my 19 yo sister and was completely appropriate for my 13 yo (F)SIL. If you don't want to go bar hopping then you should say so--your bach party should be something you want to do. Some girls on here want the crazy, and that's them--but if it's not your situation you shouldn't have to have it because it's "the thing to do".

Thanks guys. I think I'll talk with my MOH about my worries and we'll see what happens It's still a while off, so I'm not too worried yet.