Bachlorette party Ideas: having an underage BM

Rent a cabin for the weekend, spa day, outdoor activity (kayaking, paddle boarding, hiking, non-water ideas), cooking class, BYOB paint class.

Clubs, yes. Bars, no. Solution? Restaurant!

Of course this depends on state & county laws, but thats a good general rule.

I had an underage BM and she wasn't invited to my bachelorette. IMO, it's not appropriate to bring an 18 year old bar hopping even if she's not drinking.

I've never heard of a bar letting in anyone under 21 unless they're WAAAAAAAY under 21 (like: in a stroller).

I took my best friend to medieval times for her bachelorette, it was a hilariously fun time, and you can buy a package to get front row seating and a personalized announcement.

My bachelorette party will be at home with the girls and we're doing a HP themed bash, which I'm super excited about. I told them all that since I don't drink and one of my BM is pregnant and 2 others breastfeeding that I wanted to do sparkling cider instead of alcohol. It'll still be fun and I am a firm believer that you don't need alcohol to have a good time.

@Kathrine- Sadly, the only thing on that list that is near to us would be something like the paint class, like Wine and Canvas, but again with the underage BM I think that would be tricky. I live in South/Central Indiana, so there's not much to do in this area unless I want to drive a 1/2 hr to an hr in any direction, and even then it's mostly just places that you can bar-hop easily, not much else

My sister was underaged when she got married. For her Bachlorette party I rented a bunch of wedding themed movies and we just hung out all night. I made chocolate covered strawberries and loads of other unhealthy snacks. We also went out for a nice dinner.

I am in the same situation, my future SIL is a bridesmaid and is 18. We are just not bringing her on the bachelorette trip like @Jane said its not appropriate. However, I like to bar hop and go dancing so it makes sense for me.

If that is not your thing, your MOH needs to take that into consideration. If the plans change to something your style, then you won't have to worry about excluding your FSIL.

Would she even want to be there? I mean, honestly, I hate being the only sober one especially around people I'm vaguely familiar with.

@From Mi to Mo- See, that's more what I want to do, but they are the ones planning it, so I can't really put my foot down on anything like that without seeming rude, can I ??

@Duales- Medieval Times sounds like fun, but the nearest one to us is in Chicago

@PurpleKitten- I thought the same thing

@Jane- I don't WANT the 18 yr old to go bar hopping with us bc I think it's inappropriate as well, that's just what my MOH said when I mentioned that FSIL couldn't so.

My sister was underage and we still were able to have a full weekend of events she could be included in. I say if you aren't a big drinker then there is no point in going to a bar. ETA: We went to a pro football game one night and the next night we went for dinner and to a private pole dance class!

Some bars will let 18 and over in Especially in college towns. The other ladies offered good suggestions. You could also see a play/show. There's a place in Atlanta called the Shakespeare Tavern I think. They serve you dinner and you watch a play. You can also buy alcohol there. There may be something like that nearby. That way if some people want to drink they can and others won't feel excluded.

Making her the DD is an awful idea. She would feel left out! That's rude! Why not have a slumber party? Get a hotel room, order pizza, do your nails, play games, watch movies.....something like that? The older girls can still drink and you don't have to. Personally, I think they should respect your wishes about it not revolving around drinking because YOU don't even want to drink. There are plenty of other things though. Spa day? Dancing? Burlesque show? Comedy club? A dinner event?

@Stephanie- no I don't think she'd want to be there, that's another wissue I'm having with the bar-hopping scene, I want all my BMs to be present for my bachlorette party, I don't want anyone excluded I would be fine having a weekend with my 21-yr old bridesmaids to go bar-hopping if that's what they want to do, but NOT for my bachlorette per-se bc I want FSIL to be there and have fun too.

@Katy- I don't want her coming to just be the DD, I want her to enjoy herself as well. I actually do plan to have a slumber party type thing the night of the rehearsal dinner, that way we can all get up and get ready together the next day I like some of your other ideas as well

My underage BM came to the dinner with her mom. She came to one bar/restaurant with us afterwards (her mom was also there). They called it a night after that and we went on our hedonist way. I was glad she could feel included for a bit.

I have the same issue with only one of my BMs being underage (she's my cousin) so to let her feel included my MOH and I are planning on making a day of it. We're gonna do brunch then go back to my house and give each other facials and stuff and watch movies, then later that night the adults are gonna go take a pole dancing class or hit a karaoke bar or something that way we can still have some adult fun but everyone feels included.

As of right now I have talked to my sister about just going to dinner and doing painting with a twist so that my MOH/future stepdaughter can go too. We might add midnight bowling after the painting. These are all things I'd want to do even if stepdaughter isn't there. I'm not big on clubs anymore and don't really want to just go to a bar.

I don't think there's anything wrong with an 18 yo going to a bar/club! It's not like she's 15. We went to clubs to dance all the time when we were freshmen in college!