Bachelorette Party - what does the bride pay for?

I'm paying for a portion of mine. However, I don't have bridesmaids. My best friend is helping me plan it, but I did a lot of the legwork. We are renting a luxury suite at the local baseball game ($1000 for 20 people). I'm paying $100 towards it to knock the cost down a bit per person, because I know my friends have tight budgets and I want them all to come! I really put my foot down about the suite instead of just getting tickets for seats or barhopping, so I felt like I should.

It is definitely proper for them to pay since they are throwing it for your. plus like you stated you paid for everyone's tickets! I'm curious if maybe something else is going on with you MOH. Hope it all works out

I didn't pay for anything. I tried to pay for a lot of the stuff but they went above and the beyond! It made me a little bit uncomfortable because I hate that they paid for everything. They literally took everything from my wallet except my license for the weekend lol.

You shouldn't have to pay more it's your party your the Honored Guest

Your not supposed to pay for any thing

Ew. This is tacky. You shouldn't have even bought the tickets, honestly. But that's a decision you made and felt comfortable with. If they're throwing this in your honor you shouldn't be paying for anything.

They obviously planned for something they can't pay for. I'd pay. They're trying to make you happy by having an event that's our of their reach.

I think this is why brides shouldn't have any part in planning their own bachelorette party. And I don't know if you did or not. If they 100% planned it with 0 input from you then they shouldn't be asking for anything (of course feel free to contribute because it's a nice thing to do) However, if you told them that you really wanted a destination bachelorette and you wanted to stay at this place and do these things then you should definitely be paying for your room, your travel expenses and contributing to the going out expenses.

The bride normally doesn't pay for anything.

I didn't pay a dime.

I think it's more than enough that you bought the tickets!

Nothing. We kept our coed bach bash low key. We had one at our new home. BP provided everything from drinks, booze, food, cupcakes to games. We just provided the venue.

I had a destination bachelorette and i paid for myself. if people are already paying to travel, IMO they shouldn't have to cover my costs. my MOH offered, but she had already put a lot of work into organizing it, and i didn't want her to basically pay double.

people did buy my drinks when we were out though.

I had not heard that the bride does not pay for anything during her bachlorette party; I knew that she didn't pay for drinks but I didn't realize that included accommodations and flights if it was a destination bachlorette. I wanted a destination bachelorette party so I told my bridal party that I would pay for the accommodations of all the bridal party members since I was asking them to pay for flights. Also, this way, we could be in the same house/apartment. The bridal party already has to pay for so much, I felt bad adding another hefty expense.

I won a night hotel stay, a bottle of champagne, and catered breakfast so that was my contribution to the party

My bridesmaids/moh covered the drinks, dinner, and their own transportation

Get a new MOH

Generally, the idea is that the bride doesn't pay for anything, but I think destination bachelorette need to be considered differently. Others paying the bride's way works when you're going out for dinner, drinks, or taking a group pole dancing class or going to paint nite. When going out of town, hotels, and making plans for a whole weekend come into the picture, that changes things. I'd assume I was paying my share unless the person planning or the group going told me, "put your wallet away, your's is covered."

It sounds like you and your MOH had a plan for splitting the costs: she takes care of your accommodations and you take care of the tickets for the whole group. I'd probably respond to her question about you paying for your share of the hotel by saying something like, "I think before we discussed that I was responsible for tickets and in return, I wasn't chipping in for the hotel. Do we need to change that plan?" I would, however, be prepared to pay your share of the hotel. She's either forgotten about the prior agreement or she can't cover your hotel. I wouldn't want any of my friends to be spending more than they really could for me.

I agree with PP's regarding an overnight or destination bachelorette party. I will absolutely be opening up my purse at mine (2 hours away long weekend at the beach, being thrown by my Bm's) & I will not let them pay for me the entire time. On the other hand, if it is a night out with your BP and they have planned it all, I would think they would pay for you too.

I would def be honest with MOH and tell her that you already put your share out when you purchased the tickets for EVERYONE. If she still insists on you paying your part in the lodging, I would reconsider her friendship. That's not nice.