Bachelorette Party - what does the bride pay for?

Usually the bride does not have to pay anything. Your bridal party is throwing you a celebration, as the guest of honor you should not have to open your purse.

Usually you wouldn't pay but since she asked a leading question, you can tell she wants you to pay. I would just say you can and let it be. It's unfortunate but just keep it in mind when you do a bach for her if the time comes. If you say no, it's just going to be awkward and your other people attending might get upset

Hmm I was always under the impression that the bride doesn't have to pay for anything. I mean, throwing a bachelorette is optional to the bridesmaids, it's not like they're being forced into it. I'm the type of person who hates having someone pay for me so I'll probably try to at least pay for my own food/drinks, if people let me.

ETA: I would probably pay my share, since it's not that much and she's clearly wanting you to pay.

Mine is planned by MOH- split between BMs and sisters. I haven't been asked to pay for hotel, activity (trolley pub) or anything..But I will be bringing cash for bars and dinner.

Any bachelorette party I've been to, the BM have split the cost of the bride & even girls that aren't in the bridal party have bought drinks/shots for the bride.

My bachelorette party is in a few weeks & all I know of is the date. I of course will have cash on me but knowing my sister in law & cousin in law, I probably won't pay for anything but I don't want to have the money just in case

That was rude of her to ask! I just had my destination bachelorette party this weekend and I bought my own flight, INSISTED on picking up a couple tabs here and there (probably $250 total), and also gave my MOH $100 bc she seriously went above and beyond buying stuff and I know she didn't split that with the other girls.

At all the bachelorettes I've attended, I'd say the bride usually picks up a round or two of drinks and if it's destination she pays for her own transportation but not lodging.

So rude of her! I have offered to pay for things for my bachelorette but my MOH (sister) refuses. I have never gone to a bachelorette where the bride paid for anything. Kind of surprised you paid $99 pp for the wine fest...I would never allow a bride to buy my ticket to something that we are at because of her. Makes no sense to me. I would probably just pay and forget about it but I'd be a little hurt tbh.

Yes bride doesnt pay for anything but shes asking so maybe she is not aware of doesnt care lol she should have consulted with you first if thats the case

I would say. "OMG - I bought all these tickets, and that's all I budgeted for..." They will figure it out.

I don't agree that the bride should never have to open her purse as a blanket rule. Bachelorette parties are getting more extravagant and extensive, especially with destination parties. It's not fair for the BP to have to pay hundreds for themselves AND have the bride's expenses to cover on to of that.

However, in this case since you have covered ALL of their tickets to the wine festival, I think it's totally fair that they cover your share of the room. And it sounds like this was something you all agreed to in advance?

I would respond with something like: "I thought since I paid for all wine festival tickets, the BMs were paying for the hotel?". Just ask the question. Maybe she needs a reminder.

Usually the bride pays for nothing, so the fact that you paid for everyone's tickets is enough to me IMO.

Yeah I was shocked that she asked because I helped her plan the weekend and we covered all of that before purchasing anything. 2 of the 3 BMs attending have to fly in for the weekend (including the MOH), so my way of saying thank you to them was buying the wine fest tickets. I'm also driving all of us to the location which is over a 3-hour drive (through the rocky mountains).

I feel like I've already covered my part, she just needs to stick to the plan or if her situation has changed she needs to explain that to me.

Wow that's insane. All my BM's are splitting my expenses. I'm only paying for my plane ticket since we're flying somewhere.

I didn't pay for anything, but I offered to of course. I think you just need to have the tough conversation with her. It sounds like you're pulling more than enough of your share by helping with planning and paying for an activity. Good luck!

I'm having a destination bachelorette party and I am only paying for my flight! I will definitely be willing to pay for the bars and dinner, but my MOH planned the entire trip!

I'd pay but my feelings would be very hurt.

I've never heard of a bride having to pay for anything during a bachelorette party. It's a party that your bridesmaids throw in your honor, so they shouldn't be asking you to pay

The bride never pays for anything. The party is thrown by the bridal party in your honor and they all cover the coast of the bride.

I paid for whatever they let me pay for. Some food and alcohol and my money for gambling. I didn't have to pay for lodging but I tried. Did she discuss any of this with you before she made the reservation? Also my BM's didn't throw my party. My friends did. Guess we are an untraditional bunch. I don't think it matters who pays. If you can afford it just pay and go have fun.

I'd just pay it but I wouldn't be happy about it.

But if you're close enough say what pp said and just say I thought my part was covered because I bought the tickets for everyone?