Bachelorette party was horrible then this happens *sigh* Slight Vent

He wants to meet the guy before he allows him to come to the wedding just because FH likes to know who is around him. He doesn't want ppl In his circle that he doesn't know. Well they took offense to that and her boyfriend decides he doesn't want to come to the wedding because he feels singled out. I told her that FH did that to alot of ppl and those ppl made an effort to introduce their guests beforehand without issue because they know how FH is but this bridesmaid and her boyfriend don't get it. FH even went out HIS way to call this guy and try to clear the air and he blows FH off several times. So FH is pissed because he tried to reach out so there is no bad blood because this girl has done so much but her pathetic boyfriend won't budge so I told her that FH tried & her response is, ”I just hope he isn't turned off to it now”. I wanted to say ”Just tell him don't come” but I didn't feel we did anything wrong. They thought they'd just do introductions at the wedding but I told her

That wouldn't be a good idea because FH would be stand offish and then the boyfriend would feel more awkward at the wedding than if introductions were done beforehand. Plus a wedding is not the best place cuz everyone will be fighting for the bride and groom's attention. They just don't get it. So idk what else to do. FH does things for me that he doesn't like to do all the time, why after being with him for 5 yrs and a kid together hasn't he picked that trait up? Her boyfriend is very to himself, plays videogames all day, and makes her work 2 jobs while he works not so promising jobs at night as a photographer. But she claims she's happy. That's how my party went. I plan to throw myself a do over when my sister gets here for the wedding and when the missing bridesmaids can attend cuz that was too dense and blown for me lol. I didn't expect to hear everyone's pity stories all night.

Aww that sux. I hope ur next one will be better!!

Wow...i hope the next one will be a better one...you deserve it after this...keep us updated..

It sounds like you had a party with both of my sisters on their bad days! I'm so sorry. Some people are just selfish. They have NO idea how to relate to anyone, other than to talk about themselves. You should just thank goodness you aren't like that, have your do-over, and let that awful night roll off your back. :-)

Im so sorry that happened to you. We all picture our wedding planning, parties, and the weddings to go perfect for us. Some people just dont know when to chill and just have a good time. If the attention is not on them or something is not about them, they are not feeling it. Such a shame that she had to worry you about wedding guest stuff at your party. Thats where your supposed to let your hair down talk about happy stuff and just have a great time! Im glad you have a chance to do a do over. I hope the next one is much better.

Good luck for the next one. I'm sure it will be much better.

I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sure the next one will be better

Wow thats crazy. Hope your next is better

Thanks ladies. I feel alot better. I talked with the bridesmaid about her boyfriend and she claims they don't have an issue but we'll see!

That sucks.

my FH also didn't want anyone he didn't know.

fair enough neither did I.

We made allowance for one guy and only one, and that is cause that girlfriend is travelling by herself and it's a 6hr drive and she doesn't know any of the other guests, plus I've known her boyfriend since I was in grade 10 so I vouched he was an OK guy.

I know the next one will be better!!!!

When I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding the only reasons FH was invited despite the bride only meeting him once and the groom never met him before that weekend were 1-I'd been dating him for 2 years at that point (their wedding was actually on our 2 year anniversary of dating :p) and 2- I had to drive from NJ to GA, and I wasn't comfortable doing that, especially since I had just purchased and learned to drive my first stick shift car. If not for those two reasons he wouldn't have been there. Honestly, that's how FH and I plan to do guests at our wedding. There are going to be more than enough people that I do know there (big family on both sides) without having strangers being there.

When I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding the only reasons FH was invited despite the bride only meeting him once and the groom never met him before that weekend were 1-I'd been dating him for 2 years at that point (their wedding was actually on our 2 year anniversary of dating :p) and 2- I had to drive from NJ to GA, and I wasn't comfortable doing that, especially since I had just purchased and learned to drive my first stick shift car. If not for those two reasons he wouldn't have been there. Honestly, that's how FH and I plan to do guests at our wedding. There are going to be more than enough people that I do know there (big family on both sides) without having strangers being there.

I am not quite certain what exactly happened from the beginning. It sounds that there was not much excitement to begin with for this party. Based on all your side comments about what is going on with this bridesmaid and her boyfriend, you may have already determined that you really don't want him there anyway (my impression). The best thing until this wedding is over is to probably be very clear into what exactly you want so that they all know what your expectations are until you get married. Clearly two of your bridesmaids were having fun at the club, but it probably wasn't your type of scene. The perverted games seem to be not your thing as well (not mine either). Your host should have been the pitty party manager- Eliminate any conversations not related to you and your party. If you make specific ground rules, I'm sure your event will rock out.