Bachelorette party letdown

I just need to jump on my soapbox for a minute...please understand I am extremely grateful for my friends and their time.



I was asked 8 months ago about my ideal bachelorette party..including a party bus, dinner, wine bar, than end it at mini golf and cake/coffee. I have been so excited. However once I brought up how much I'm looking forward to the party bus and crazy night, he looked at me with a weird face. He told me that honey it's not like that all . I again thought he was joking and he wasn't . This bachelorette party is only once . I was told to dress comfortably ...we will be home by 9pm. He is not the kind that jokes or holds back on the truth ( if this was a joke). He asked me if I would like him to reach out to the group (it's been a secret from me) especially to the main one planning and being honest with them. There's no dinner. This isn't about money as the group are all comfortable. I just am in shock, like they do not know me.
Has anyone experienced anything like this?? I completely understand it's just a bachelorette party but I'm just in shock.
Thank you so much for listing to my rant!