Bachelorette party letdown

Maybe they just wanted to go a more casual low key route? Or maybe they’re limited with options from covid?

Did the event happen yet or is it coming up?


It could be that it’s because of the pandemic. Unfortunately, a lot of the things people want to do aren’t possible at the moment.

View Quoted Comment Its not limited here that's the thing. Other than wearing masks it's all a go.

View Quoted Comment Yea, it's not limited here though. Other than wearing masks , all is available. My fiance is getting the whole shebang. Limo, dinner, bars, all!

View Quoted Comment I mean I understand your frustration cause it’s not gonna be exactly the way you’d envision but you also need to remember that it’s nice they are even doing it for you at all - some people on here get really unresponsive And uninterested bridesmaids. Sure yours aren’t fulfilling the wishes you’d want for your bachelorette, but just the fact they’re even doing anything at all for you is pretty nice.

Being available doesn’t mean that they’re comfortable with it or consider it a safe thing to do, though. Many people aren’t okay putting themselves in certain situations right now, and it’s understandable. Unless you talk to them, there’s really no way to know, though. Perhaps you could ask them about why they suggested comfortable attire and an early night.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! Especially between the funny memes of bachelorette parties we have all sent back and forth. I'm so confused.

9pm?! You can have a zoom party that’s later then that.

View Quoted Comment 🤣 I stay up doing laundry later that as well!!

I agree with Ashley. Just because what you want to do isn't restrictes that doesn't mean they are comfortable still do it. They might not be comfortable going out and having a huge bachelorette party with Covid. Also, a lot of people have been effected financially so maybe they didn't have the money to host such an elaborate event. Also while I totally get you are disappointed, pre-wedding events are completely optional so you should be thankful they are doing anything for you. A lot of brides and grooms haven't had the wedding or pre-wedding events like they dreamed of so you aren't alone. I'm currently pregnant with my first child and I have no clue if I will be able to have a baby shower which would suck because I would love nothing more than to celebrate with everyone I love, but that just might not be possible.

Ending at 9pm is kindve annoying but at least they’re still planning something during this pandemic!

I am sorry but reread your post twice. How do you know that'll be the exact plan? Where did you hear you'll be home by nine. Did they share exact plans with you or him?
I mean I get the disappointment but like others have said be glad they planned something. Many Brides don't even get a bridal party that thinks to throw them a party plus it's corona time. I know I have my idea of the perfect bachelorette but I am going to leave it to my MOH to plan. If it's not what I fully what I would dream I wouldn't take it as she doesn't know me rather this is what she thought we be good plus she's not that much of a party planner. She admits that lol. I am just going to be happy she planned something for me. Now the only thing you can do is mention what you'd like to them. My friend told her sister /MOH she at least wants dancing so she could factor that in.

Like others have mentioned, you should just be happy and grateful that someone is planning something for you. I sense a little bit of selfishness from you in regards to your bach vision the fact that you even brought up their money (basically how they’re all financially okay so you expect the event to meet your vision). Of course bachelorettes aren’t all about money. Some people are more casual planners than others, some people are less comfortable with whatever activities during COVID, etc etc many factors. Just sit back and enjoy your friends.

A suggestion you were asked for, turned out not to interest them, obviously. It is always , always, the choice of the hostesses or planning group, not the bride . If you have a specific issue, like no strippers, or fear of heights or sick from heights, speak up. Other than that, go and have fun. The party is a form of gift. You do not specify it or order it, if that is not what people want to give you. The gift is always the choice of the giver, standard etiquette, ( barring illness or moral objections. )

View Quoted Comment I brought up the money so I could get the fact of "well they may not be financially able too" comments taken care of. In no ways of selfishness. I'm not selfish just extremely confused, why ask the questions "where would you like to eat? (Than go no where to eat) where would you like to go? (Than go to none of those places) in fact one area in particular, they know I am not a fan of were going! ...

View Quoted Comment I am just confused on why even ask me those questions I guess! Between the small discussions on the party we have had it seemed to be a very fun night out! Like "you're going to have a blast!" These girls I have done so many things with so we all know what that includes for us! I understand some people enjoy and have a moderate low key party which I understand but I'm telling you that's not them! It's even ODD for them! They all took off the next day.

I am not sure what state you live in, but maybe there are restrictions due to COVID? A co-worker was set to go to Ibiza for her bachelorette party and it was cancelled due to COVID and she just went out with her GFs instead. She was let down for sure. I could only invite 5 gfs to my dinner out due to our gov restrictions. I am not sure what you wanted to happen at your bachelorette party, i.e., kiss the stripper or something and not feel guilty (absolutely NO judgement) but if not maybe planning a girl's trip would be nice after the wedding. I plan on doing that.


Stupid COVID!

View Quoted Comment Covid isnt a problem here, basic masks...were all open for business...strippers are not part of any of this...

View Quoted Comment Tv has had a great affect on Bach parties. For many years, decades, brides ha 1 of shower, bridal luncheon or tea, or bachelorette. 16 years ago, bachelorettes were least common. They followed the male model, an evening out for drinks or dinner. Some, films or strippers, raunchy model. 12-14 years ago, a limo for the night and clubbing was big in cities. Often in addition to a shower.
Mine was a weekend , very uncommon unless someone owned or had access to a cottage, or went camping. Comedy clubs, or a concert or show not drinks was common. This wish list of lots of things, or mini vacations, we hear of on WW and elsewhere is a recent change, and not common at all in lots of areas. So your expectations, and their plans, may be coming from different places. ...My hubby and I, and another couple, met one summer working at a camp. Having had my bach and shower, the staff got together a year later, we thought a reunion, camping starting 8 pm. But the fire and talk was a diversion. At 5 am they woke us out, we rode to a field by the side of a road, and they had got each couple a balloon ride. Surprises can be fun. So let go of your ideas, and enjoy what they plan. Covid has greatly altered activity, and money available, for many. Stop planning, and have fun!

View Quoted Comment Thank you judith! I'll get over this, it was just a massive surprise is all...