Bachelorette party disaster

Of course @sara! I love how conscientious you are and applaud you doing your own research. If only everyone would be like you! Have fun this weekend! I'm headed to my bachelorette too this weekend! And I'll be bringing some straight girls to a gay bar!

Can I just say how pleased I am that this thread came to such a great conclusion?

I went to a gay bar the night of my bachelorette (went to few places) with my BP and a gay friend (who suggested the place) there was a drag show and i love them. We danced and didnt talk to anybody outside ourselves or "gawked". I would have never thought it would be disrespectful and I really hope nobody felt that way because of us. @PWG thanks for providing that input, it's something that never crossed my mind.

@Sara, you can vouch for your friends, but can you vouch for your MOH co-workers too?

Either way, it sounds like you have you a good idea of what you want and don't want. Good luck on that conversation with your MOH and have so much fun this weekend!

@monica, no problem. Being the queer "explainer" is a role I found myself falling into on WW and I'm pretty pumped about it/

@PrettyWittyandGay Congrats!!! We can celebrate together from afar!

@rachel no I cant, that's why I'm so nervous. I'm going to pick up my wedding dress tomorrow with her, and I'll talk with her then and see if we can get on the same page. Thank you for all the help and reassurance!

Generally going to an LGBTQ bar for a Bach is seen as disrespectful because people get crazy during things like drag shows. If you behave yourself appropriately then they probably wouldn't care.

OMG! Im so happy I opened this thread. @PWG I also happy I read your comment. We are going to a drag show for my bachorlette and then we were going to go to a gay bar (which I go to all the time) but I have never gone with a big group. After you explanation I can see how it could be looked at as annoying and intrusive. I seriously would not have thought about it twice. I just know how much fun it is there and everyone is always so nice and fun and I just want to have a good time. So with that said... Im sure there is groups that go there for shits and giggles but I dont feel its the case for everybody. Some people just truly want to have a fun time.

I don't know if it's fair to generally say it's disrespectful for BPs to go to gay bars. Some of the drag shows in gay bars near me actually market to tourists and BPs. I, of course, see how it can be and often is, but not always.

@kate I've thought that too but my brother and I are pretty close and I don't see him being all that upset about those types of things. But then again he's been gone for almost 11 months so maybe he is a little worried she will get a wild hair up her ass because she's been lonely. That's another reason why I'm extra careful with her feelings, the last thing I want to do is hurt her when she's already anxious about his return and getting her life back to normal.

Your maid of honor sucks. This is about you not her.