Bachelor party thoughts?

About going to get suits and things together and he doesn't seem to care. And everything we have planned so far from the fun to the business has been met with (usually 30min prior) I can't make it due to car trouble or some other excuse. I finally asked if he wants to keep him as a BM since if he is flaking now is he going to stick this out the day of? And as mean as this sounds me and the other bridesmaids have started taking bets of if he will show or not. Not sure how to handle this or what to do? Am I jumping the gun and expecting too much?

Not gonna lie. I was kinda hoping this was going to be a strippers vs no strippers blow up post. lol

Wait wait wait, you're getting upset that he hasn't mentioned the bachelor party and you have 7 months.

Your wedding is a solid eight months away... my sister just planned my bachelorette party last week and FH's brother is keeping it a total surprise for him. Again, you have so long until your wedding. Breaths.

My FH doesn't want a bachelor party. the fact that I'm trying to convince him to let my male cousins take him to a strip club is a tad ridiculous, no?

My FH is also not having a bachelor party. It's not my circus to intervene in.

You have plenty of time, don't stress this.

I'm having 1/2 of a bachelorette party on Saturday. Wine tasting at 5, dinner and then this girl is hanging out with my niece and nephew while FH does whatever he's doing. Boring 'ol shrew.

I figured I was but honestly we go the bachelorette party together a year prior it was kind of funny and yes we are having a male stripper though more as a joke then to get the jollies off! And the FH doesn't want to go to a strip club the other guys in the party are wanting to do a party where they go out riding gocarts dressed as some kind of game character and then go back to one of there houses and spend the night drinking, playing video games, etc.

I think you have plenty of time; I wouldn't worry about him flaking quite yet. FH's bachelor party is on 10/18 (we are getting married 11/8), and it was seriously just planned 2 weeks ago.

I'm not going to generalize this as men and women are different on a planning scale....but men and women are different on a planning scale.

Double post

We planned our parties like a month before our wedding. It doesn't have to be a huge deal to be fun.

There's tons of time to go....relax

@Janeen LOL. Your responses are perfect

@Erin I wasn't planning on kicking him out but I wasn't the only one getting tired of the no show. It's one of the reasons I was asking advice not judgement.

Haha @Janeen I was wondering the same thing...as your first comment lol

@Janeen, me too!!!! Maybe it still can be....

In fairness, my FH and his guys took a very long time to get the ball rolling. My girls had already had dresses paid for before two of the guys had even made their way to MWH to figure sh!t out. But, they did eventually.

It did however, end up stressing my FH out big time. Even the other night he came into bed and was like, "GM can't make it to my bachelor party because they can't agree on anything"

I told him, "Well this is what happens when you say lame sh!t like 'I don't have a best man. I want them all to be my best man'. You need one voice to be heard and they need to be able to get all the men in line".

So he can either have that conversation with him, or it's his own fault. After all, you can really only worry about your girls.

*EDIT* Whew. I'm cranky. Excuse the potty mouth.

Yeah....guys will be guys. They procrastinate. We didn't know about my husband's bachelor party until the weekend before they had it which was the weekend before our wedding. Guys just don't care as much about wedding stuff as us women do, in my experience. Our BM gave the most thoughtless speech that was clearly unprepared, and one GM was almost late. I think it's a guy thing, or else my husband just has horrible brothers (also a possibility )