Hi All! I have a weird situation and could use a little insight.
My FH's brother is getting married in August of this year, and his bachelor party is next weekend. FH and I are traveling to FL from CT next week for this bachelor party (it's not really fair to call it a bachelor party cause I will be in attendance as well as my FSIL but that's what we're calling it)
FH is on of his brothers Best Men, along with their older brother, their older brother can't attend due to his wife just having a baby in April so he can't take time off work and also doesn't want to leave his wife home alone to care for a newborn by herself. Since their older brother isn't attending my FH and his brothers officiant (female, his brothers best friend, she is also traveling to FL from CT for the party) decided to plan the bachelor party.
WELL my FH sucks at planning and initiative, so he got a text from the officiant last week stressing out cause she felt like she was planning this party all by herself and money's tight with her and she really needed FH to step up and do some leg work. So as with most things that involve some kind of planning in our relationship, it got dumped on to me. I called the officiant to calm her down cause she was crying and stressing hard, she said she handled the food and was going to get catering from a local Mexican restaurant but FH needed to figure out the rest. The original plan was to basically create a carnival in FBIL's backyard with games, a cotton candy machine and a snow cone machine ect. Well that proved to be A) too complicated and B) too pricey.
Since I had to take over planning, I found an Inflatable Obstacle Course/Water Slide, Snow Cone Machine and Ladder Ball for 6 hour rental for $600 I didn't find the price too bad, and booked it so the activity portion of the party was complete.
NOW I'm not holding my breath to get paid back from the bridal party, between this and the food the officiant is purchasing comes out to $100 per person in the bridal party, I told the officiant not to worry about paying me for the rentals and that I wasn't going to pay her for the food so it evened out. FH would give me money but at this point after buying our house last month our finances are pretty much combined, so him paying me back wouldn't really do anything for me lol. In the event the Bridal Party doesn't pay me back, am I still obligated to give a gift at the wedding?
Three years ago when FH oldest brother got married my FMIL berated me for only giving $100 (she's one of the pay for your plate people) but I could ONLY afford $100 and to be fair I purchased around $200 in Raffle Items for the couples Jack and Jill that I did not get reimbursed for and also did a lot of help with running around prior to the wedding and she was still mad and said something to me about my "small gift" I will give a card with well wishes but don't think I should have to shell out another $200 for a wedding present when I've already spent $600 on a bachelor party I'm only going to for Wawa lol
Thanks for reading all of this!
