Bachelor Party in Vegas

You say you believe him, but it sounds like deep down you don't believe him..has this happened in past relationships? You're right, maybe it's insecurities. At any rate I'd try to get it ironed out before 10 days from now. You don't want to start your marriage off with this issue hanging over you. Talk to him more, maybe put it on you like your own insecurities instead of accusing him (not that you are). Good luck!

People think that going to Vegas is an automatic cheating weekend... It's not. I went to Vegas when I was in a commited relationship, and came back faithful. Would you feel the same if it was another destination? Vegas could be trouble, yes, but it's only as much trouble as you make it. Another time I went, I was single, and yes, I had fun. Too much fun. I would relax a little.

I agree with Ab Z. you say you believe him but something is making you feel like you need to worry about it.

Honestly, I think you need to realize that you and him are getting married in 10days and that whether the boys had maybe a little too much fun in Vegas let it go. Talk to him if you need to, but I think you are going to have to let it go and be confident in your relationship.

Also if you talk to him, I think no matter what he tells you, you are going to still feel worried because the craziness of what Vegas symbolizes. Good Luck!

I think there may be an underlying issue on why you think he did something other then what he's telling you. AB Z really nailed it - talk to him. Let him know how you feel (without accusations or yelling)

I don't think having feelings of insecurity is anything unusal when your fiance goes to Vegas. My fiance went to vegas not for his own bachelor party but for his best friends in which he is the best man. I felt the same way when he went and when he came home. I also felt that way when he went to his other friends bachelor party in Atlantic City in April. .He is not one to share the details of his weekend so, I hear details through the grapevine either by my girlfriends or the guys who went. Everytime I hear something I ask him about it and I trust that he is telling me the truth because otherwise their is no point in getting married. After he got back we also spent the next weekend just the two of us, which helped us reconnect. He loves you and trust that he would never want to hurt you.

Dont stress about it because it will make you go crazy. Im sure everything they did was normal its Vegas. So he got a few raunchy lap dances and went to a few strip clubs but at the end of the day he will never see any of them again and you will be his wife soon and no one wants a bitchy wife lol Just joking cause im bitchy but you know what I mean.

Mine is going to Vegas in January and I am a bit worried but I rather him go have lap dances over there then have the local strippers here all over him. Most men would not do anything but with the push of a friend I think they are put in a corner. I know my fiance will never do anything form peer presure because he is a leader not a follower but I know some men are. I am afraid my fiance and his groomsmen will end up in jail because they are crazy and I have seen them do crazy things while they are drunk and sometimes sobber. Talk to him and then drop it because it will lead up to more.

I think I'd be worried too, mainly cause 5 whole days in vegas, the city of sin, I would be freaking out. I know that's terrible. But in the end, I do trust him, I really do, and I don't think he would cheat.

If you trust your man, trust he won't cheat.

I think my biggiest concern would be like Vanessa said, and him getting arrested cause him and his friends are crazy. But since he's home now, you don't need to worry about that.

i understand your worries, and just take a deep breath, and really think, "WOuld he do something to undermine our upcoming marriage vows?" Do i trust this man I am about to marry???

I think it is natural to feel uneasy and bothered about him going there, but don't let those feelings get the best of you, especially if you don't know with certainty that he did something you wouldn't approve of. is he acting different? Does he have inside jokes with his friends that you've noticed? Like the ladies have said already, going to Vegas can automatically put the "bad thinking" in your head, but try to relax and trust him. My FH is going to New Orleans for 7 days for his bachelor party, and though I can't help but think of what "could" happen, I trust him enough to know that I have nothing to worry about.

My FH went on a bachlor party trip with his bestfriend that got married a few months ago and I really didnt have a problem with it. If i was afraid he would even think about cheating on me then i wouldnt be marring him. If you trust him like you say you do then i would just drop it. If you cant then there is something more, not neccessarily on on his part, but you cant start a marriage like this.

I would feel the same way as you. However, I am insecure and a natural worrier. I personally do not agree with my FH going to a strip club but we are both on the same page when it comes to that. However, I know this is very common and I am not saying it to put down anyone or anything like that (everyone is free to choose what they want to do). Just try and talk it out, but make sure you tell him that its not a matter of trust and just natural concern. You feel this way soley for the fact that you love him so much. It is natural to feel this way due to how much you care. He of course loves you too and I am sure did nothing. He would even probably worry if you did the same if you were to go to Vegas. Men dont always say it but these kinds of things go both ways. I know its hard but try not to worry and just talk with him.

I can totally understand you, Ive been cheating by every boyfriend I had before FH and that thought comes to my mind very frequently. But I always ask myself this question: Has my FH has done something to doubt him? The answer is always no. I do have my own insecurities but I think that's something I need to deal with myself. I've talk to FH about it and he understand my feelings. I just try not to punish him for what others have done.

So talk to your FH and tell him how you really feeling but dont accuse him of anything. Good luck! =)

I think you shouldn't be worried. If he wants to cheat, he would do it anywhere. I agree with Desiree, what you do in Vegas is up to you.

..I know it's hard but you need to let go and give your total trust to FH..besides I mean with all his friends around I doubt they would have let him do anything stupid, and I highly doubt he even wanted to..When you take a trip for the sole purpose/related to the fact you are marrying your fiance it means you are thinking about that the whole time..he was probably gushing about you the whole time..sure he may have gone to the strip club, but that's like a right of passage and his friends would have thought he was lame otherwise probably. Try not to sweat it too much! :-)

One of my bridesmaids we’ll call Joann attended my fiances’ bachelor party (we were the only girls), her fiancé was there, both are in our wedding – I’m in HER wedding the month after mine, anyhow during the evening JOANN did some pretty inappropriate things with a guy we’ll call NORM. Her fiancé was in the limo with us for some of the time this happened but apparently didn’t see. Then he went back to the hotel early to sober up, and we went to another bar with my Joann and Norm, they continued doing inappropriate things. Several people noticed this including our best man who broke the entire thing up once we got to the next destination. One of our best guy friends, TOMMY, told his GF Wilma who’s a very close friend what happened. She told my MOH. Now my moh doesn’t want to go to Joann’s wedding because a.) Joann didn’t tell

her fiancé what she did, & b.) she doesn’t agree with a marriage considering Joann is lying about this act & some other acts she’s done.

. Now my moh doesn’t want to go to Joann’s wedding because a.) Joann didn’t tell

her fiancé what she did, & b.) she doesn’t agree with a marriage considering Joann is lying about this act & some other acts she’s done. I don’t know what to do, my FH wants me to *stay out of it* period. My MOH is a gossip so I’m sure everyone who’s anyone knows.