baby before wedding?!

WAIT!!! Have the day be all about your love and the wedding...then have it be all about your baby. They are both such exciting events don't get them over and done with all at once. You are young enjoy being married then have fun being mommy

Im just so scared the older i get the harder it will to get pregnant! Im 27 now and will be 28 a month after wedding (hopefully getting married next Aug) soooo...ill be at least 28 if we get married when we want...

@ Shannon S- your funny---summer chicken...lolololol LOVE IT!

@ CKJL5410- I DO THE SAME THING!!!!! always!

After losing my daughter I've had this deep need and desire for a baby especially knowing the father is my soul mate. I want it to happen after the wedding, but I don't want to be on any birth control. so it's a blessing and fearful feeling all at once. fearful that it won't happen and blessed with hope that maybe God is waiting to bless us once the union is made. to each is own but I will say be happy for what you have and don't let the rest consume u it will all work out.

Meagan you keep repeating that your 27... You are NOT that old. start stressing when you hit 35.

Your right....35 is not old...its just that...that is all i want in life...and ive been stressing about it since i turned 25. I can wait another year...but that IS IT!

Hayley= are you 35?

As long as you are financially stable...

that's what we are struggling with now.

Haha no megan I'm 22... I had my kid at 18, graduated high school pregnant, and even tho my lil one is my world and I love her to death, I wish I was smarter and waited, but crazy teen hormones won that battle. I too would LOVE another child right now. I'm 4 years older haha... 4 years wiser... have my guinea pig child already but it's not worth the extra stress right now. Im about 6/7 months away from my big day and already loosing it... I can just imagine how its going to be at 2 months, 1 month, one week etc.. and especially with a baby, I would need to be on some serious meds by then! lol

** haha after thought, not sure if you watch much tv, but bethany from real house wives was pregnant getting married etc. all in a short time. She had a melt down and just felt it was all rushed. I just imagine being able to enjoy married life a little bit without a kid, then adding that. but then again I can only imagine!

Yes i watch that show---lol

i think of her when i think about me poss. being pregnant and walking down the aisle. I just dont want to be too old...or have the stress of trying...if i can get married in a year...well in 11 months like we want to then i think i can wait that much longer! But.....if we cant save enough $ then i dont know if ill be able to wait

Ok in my family its normal for us to have kids beofre we get married. i know its not very religious but thts he way it happened. and believe it or not the only 2 that got married first can not have kids on their own and one needed fertility drugs to get pregant. so if you both want it then by all means do it!!!

I have a 6 yr old! talk about a baby before the wedding! my only fear with that would be you not liking your appearance for the wedding... I was a fat cow for a while post baby... I just gained too much weight and couldnt get it off!

I was at 164lbs just a year ago and now im at 130lbs...was 114lbs a few months ago but that was way too thin! Im not worried about being overweight too much---i think a baby would outweigh all my worries

I was married and at the time had a 13 month old and I personally loved it. I'm from the other spectrum I guess. I didn't have very much difficulty planning with her around. She was actually our flower girl and surprised us by dancing the first dance with us :-) It was a little rough at the reception but I had a ton of family wanting to play with her and I had someone lined up to watch her that night so they took it upon themselves to watch her at the reception and wedding. She didn't stand up front with us but she was hot so she sat inside with a family friend who was more than happy to do it. Do what feels right for you. My favorite picture is actually one of her :-)

Me. I was so big on waiting until after the wedding. Everyone is different. I am 26 now and I am thinking mmmmmmm I do need to have a kids next year. I am like you. I am looking at the age as well, but if you are ready than you are ready. Just make sure you and FH is on the same page. Some people go to the court house and get marry first than do another one the following year with a big wedding. It is up to you. No one can make that decision for you.

Also after getting off of BC it is easier to get pregnant faster.

Nicci- that is the sweetest pic! that makes me want a baby even more lol

Wonderful moment- yes i can do that thank you My FH feels just like me---he wants a baby in the worse way too...he says if im ready then lets stop taking the pill today!!! but we are scared to make a wrong decision...but i dont think that any major decision like that is easy...

Nicci- that pics gets me everytime! I love it! ....Meagan if u are so worried about having the baby how about you compromise and put the wedding on hold for maybe a year or two and try for the baby now? I knew I wanted to have kids before I was 25 and at that poiont my FH hadnt proposed. We decided to try for the baby and wait for the wedding. I got pregnant at 25, and 2 years later we are finally getting married....is that an option youd consider?

Yes---gettting married is a peice of paper to us---we already know we are going to spend our lives together.

He does not care at all if we have a wedding- he says courthouse is fine too. I think i would like a wedding-but it just costs so much. Even $2000 is a lot to us right now-im not working-in school full time.

We dont own a home yet either...just trying to decide which to do 1st...(again i know its a personal decision)

wedding

house

baby

But, its nice to chat with others who are feeling the same way or have gone through this experience