Babies at bridal shower

View Quoted Comment Thanks Chase, anxiety of your wedding is probably playing too. Just keep communication open . I was married for 38 years and i can say though he was overseas in the service Communication is a strong foundation.
FH & I believe in the same.

We had an adult only wedding, except for two kids: our niece and nephew, both of whom are under two years old. Both also came to the shower. We aren't kid people and aren't going to have any, but these are the kids of our siblings. For us, at least, this was an exception we were more than happy to make.

Yes, the kids came by when I was getting ready but I hardly noticed them. I also didn't notice them at the wedding because they were sitting with their respective grandparents.

Your wedding is one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. You aren't just marrying your FH, you are marrying his family, too. Be careful with the "it's MY day" attitude because you risk repercussions that could last long after your wedding is over.

View Quoted Comment I had a feeling with the questions about the shower it was because you were worried that everyone would be paying attention to the baby(no meaning this to sound negative please don’t take it that way). As young as the baby is that 2hrs will probably be too long. If she’s schedule feeding then baby Eats about every 3hrs. Once you add in drive time baby will be hungry without mom. I would reach out to her and mention your fears let her know you love your new niece/nephew and would it be ok if she comes maybe half way through. You can have the attention on you for the beginning part and people can still see that baby without you feelin like that’s the only reason they came. If fsil is comfortable with others holding her baby she can get a break without being away. Also keep in mind she may choose to decline not because she doesn’t want to be there but because that’s the start of cold season and people being sick and newborns don’t really mix well.

I guess my feeling weren’t very well expressed in this post. There’s no way my FSIL won’t attend the wedding events or that I’d tell her she can’t bring her baby. I was trying to find some options that would make BOTH of us happy. I appreciate all of the ladies who provided their thoughts and suggestions for that.

It’s okay to think about myself when it comes to my wedding. There are too many posts about other brides letting others run their plans or day. It doesn’t mean that I haven’t been accommodating. She had her day and now it’s my turn. I’m in no way going overboard by thinking that and have been extremely easy going. I intentionally planned the bachelorette far enough out from her giving birth so she’d be able to join us for some girl time. I also kept the bachelorette local (per her request) to ease anxiety about being away from her newborn.

Chase your being reasonable im a mom proud of it im raising my 3rd set of twins like instated 10 kids 59 yrs old. We all need a break , its just approach. I have attended events, traveled, worked and my kids are fine. I will do anything for them but we all need some air too. Communicate w Love

How long are you getting ready for? She may need to be around her baby, for breast feeding if nothing else if it's a long enough time. I think for young babies, the mothers are with them 99% of the time so it's hard to tell them not to bring their child somewhere.