B List Invites? Insulting or not??

It's a (very) fine line. If it were a couple months before the wedding and these were close friends, I'd say sure go for it. But 3 weeks....that's a little bit tacky in my opinion no matter who it is you are asking.

Be honest... We sent our invitations out in waves because I absolutely had to make sure our very large families was covered first. Then, I invited my friends after I was sure I'd be able to cover them. I sent my first round of invitations in July with a reply date of August 1st. The second wave was sent August 4th with a reply date of September 5th. That was plenty time for our B-list to make arrangements.

I think anyone who gets offended is selfish. Many people don't realize the expense you put into a wedding. For anyone to be invited is a great honor. You can take it or leave it... if you're offended, don't come!

My wedding is in 22 days... I sent an invitation to a local lady that I knew really wanted to attend, but I couldn't add her. Saturday (28 days out), I sent her invitation. I wrote a note saying, "I apologize that this is so late. I had "large family issues." However, I would love for you and Mr. Hubby to come if you all are free. Just let me know!"

She ended up texting me and asking me how wedding planning was before she received the invitation, but I was glad to tell her that her invitation was expected to arrive the next day. She received her invitation and quickly RSVP'd... I don't think she was offended at all... she just really wanted to be apart of our special day. And that's really who I want at my wedding... the people who are genuinely happy for us and not just thinking about their own selfish feelings when I'm spending a GRIP of money to feed you. LOL

That being said, i was invited to a wedding 2 weeks before. I was not offended - the bride and I hadn't communicated in years. I just replied back and declined. There's nothing to be offended about, if you can't go, you can't go.

I would not be insulted at all. We choose our venue which only holds 100 people. So we had to cut many because clearly there are some people we HAD to invite. if we find out maybe some can not make it, it would give us a shot to invite others or save money. Up to you, but personally i would be happy to be invited, in our case family came first!

I wouldn't be offended. I'd totally understand you only had so much room or was on a budget. You know your friends best and whether or not they would care.

Yes it is rude - but I can see where there can be exceptions made. For example, I have clients that my mother's company has worked with for years - as in they probably saw me grow up more than half my family. If it comes down to a thing where we are really short on guests I would see no issue in extending an invite to someone like that. It's more like "Hey here is a free party want to come?".

If it was my sister or a close cousin or my bestfriend, I'd be pissed. But honestly, if it's not someone you're throwing back beers with every weekend, it's silly to get offended that they obviously have people who are slightly more important to them than you are just like you do. 3 weeks might be inconvenient, but not really.