B List Invites? Insulting or not??

Yes, it is rude.

Eh. It depends on the people. If you do it, I'd be honest and approach them like this, "We're on a budget so we couldn't invite as many as we wanted to. Luckily we had several that we *had* to invite turn us down, so we have room for people we wanted to but couldn't. I know it's last minute, but I'd like to invite you to our wedding if you're free."

I think it depends on your family/friends. I actually had several people be upfront and tell me (after I told them I was trying to keep it small just in pre-wedding plans) that if they needed to be on the B list that they wouldn't be offended. But that I doubt that is the norm and we do not have a B list.

You can't control how people react. I would think that if they are friends then they will just be happy to be invited. worst case would they would get mad,but I'd consider that to be their failing and not yours.

The only people we're B listing are plus ones. There were a few people that I didn't invite with a guest and they will be afforded one if we get enough declines. All of the actual humans that we want to be there are on the A list.

Personally, if I received an invitation 3 weeks before a wedding, I would be insulted and decline.

Rude

FH and I were definitely b listed for a wedding a few years ago- I can't say I was offended more of a nuisance money-wise but he really wanted to go... so we went, had a great time (honestly one of the best weddings I've ever been to!) and ended up staying in close contact with the couple. They will be guests at our wedding (A-list!)

I wouldn't be offended. As long as I get a plus one.

I think it would be understandable... you know who they are, it's not like they were last on your mind, it was for family. If you think they'd be offended, then don't, but if you think they'd be chill, go ahead

I honestly wouldn't be offended if I were on the B list!!

I agree it depends. I had a friend who had a very small family + a few friends only ceremony. She was in the same situation, when fam couldn't make it she was able to extend an invitation to a few more friends- which was great! It really depends on the situation & the people involved.

If I were inviting 3wks prior I would call then mail, or hand deliver the invites simply explaining the situation.

It does depend on your friends. We were invited to a wedding 2 weeks ahead of time by text. My first thought was B List invite, but I didn't care because I met the couple once 2 years ago (it was FH's college buddy). The groom claimed to have "forgotten" to invite FH. FH didn't care and we went. Just don't invite them by text!! Give them an actual invite or call and be honest as to why they are being invited.

Turns out the other couple we sat with we also "forgotten" and added last minute. Oh well. If you want them there, invite them.

Yes and yes

It really depends on the person what their reaction is going to be. That being said, getting an invite to a wedding 3 weeks before just isn't feasible for most people. Especially for people with kids. They either have school related or sports activities that are already planned for or they are going to have to quickly call up a babysitter. If I got invited to a wedding that was 3 weeks away, I'd have to decline because it just isn't enough time to make arrangements and request time off of work.

I'm with EricaTX on this

I plan on having a B-List but for people such as my dad's golf buddies and high school cronies that he is insisting on inviting but we want to make sure our friends and family get invited too...I haven't quite worked out the logistics and dates for the invitations and trying to NOT make it look last minute, but to be honest, these are people I don't know and am not too worried about insulting

I think it depends on the people you are inviting. I was invited to a friend's wedding via a text message the week before the actual wedding a few months ago. The bride flat-out told me that they had quite a few family members who were unable to attend, so they had some extra spots to invite more friends. Because she was so honest and because I am planning a wedding myself (& totally get it), I wasn't offended at all. I could see a lot of people taking offense to not being a first-round-draft-pick, though. They're your friends and you'll know their reactions best.

FH and I wanted to have a small wedding, so we invited only family and our close friends. Since I have a very large family and they took most of the spots, we weren't able to originally invite a lot of people we wanted to. We created a B-list of people who we wanted to invite, and we sent them invitations as we received declines. We were very honest with people, and no one seemed to be offended (since we were keeping it to just family and BEST friends). The last invitation we gave was 3 weeks before the wedding, and my FH explained the situation. They weren't offended at all either.

I guess the key here is to be very transparent and honest.