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Sarah
Beginner December 2017

Awkward conversation with non-invited friends

Sarah, on July 2, 2017 at 9:00 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 29

HELP!! We sent out the Save the Dates to family and close friends for the wedding, and I had someone confront me on their failure to receive one as of yet. We are friendly with this person, but we aren't friends with her (we don't talk or see each other outside of events). I knew she was going to be...

HELP!! We sent out the Save the Dates to family and close friends for the wedding, and I had someone confront me on their failure to receive one as of yet. We are friendly with this person, but we aren't friends with her (we don't talk or see each other outside of events). I knew she was going to be upset that she wasn't invited but I was hoping to speak with her privately about it. Instead she accosted me Friday night while a few other girls were talking about the save the dates and how awesome my MOH is for the way she's handling my shower (she came up behind me out of nowhere, didn't even have a chance to tell them to not talk about it in front of her to spare feelings) and without even saying "Hi" she straight up says "Do you still need addresses? Because I still haven't received my Save the Date yet." I was so floored I blurted something like "We're still mailing stuff out." But I don't know how to tell her, at this point without being rude, that she wasn't invited. What do I do?

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  • QueSeraSera
    VIP December 2017
    QueSeraSera ·
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    If it were me, I'd tell her sorry but nope!

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  • Sarah
    Beginner December 2017
    Sarah ·
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    Thanks Christy lol

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    I would contact her and say--

    "I wanted to talk to you about Friday night. I was really caught off-guard when you asked if I needed your address to send you a STD. Due to budget and venue constraints, we have a small guest list. I'm sorry that we won't be able to invite you".

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  • MoreMoore
    VIP November 2017
    MoreMoore ·
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    Omg we are dealing with the same issue. We have a girl who is a peripheral friend of ours, friends with our friend group. We really don't care for her. She is nice and all, and some of our friends just love her. But, She's embarrassing and inappropriate many times in public. We damn sure don't want her at our wedding! Well, being fb friends with her, she's tagged us in posts about weddings, told several of our single friends that if we don't invite her she will just be their date, and has made comments about getting drunk on our dime at our wedding. Stupid things! She is the single biggest factor in nixing plus ones for single guests. And we still have months and months to go :/ I feel for you!

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  • vivian
    Dedicated October 2017
    vivian ·
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    Same thing happened to me and I caved and just invited her. Wish I would have read this post sooner.

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  • Taylor
    Super October 2017
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    I've read before you could say because of our budget. Like we really wish we could invite you, but because of our budget, we had to limit the number of guests

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