Average Alone Time During Reception

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Yes!! We've been to so many weddings where the couple sat at a sweetheart table away in the corner or further from guests and STILL had people coming up to bother them with talking and getting photos. They're eating...leave them be. They'll make their rounds to say hello to all of their guests when they're done lol.

I don't understand the negativity towards couples wanting 20min to eat in peace. I'm spending all of this money on food, who are you to say that I'm rude for making sure I get to eat and take care of myself on MY wedding day?! We're not saying we'd leave for the entire reception, it's literally half an hour or less to EAT. lol. Why is that such a problem?

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Absolutely. Only if they're done. I wouldn't want to impose on them either if we don't want them to do the same to us. If anything, we can always make our way around in groups on the dance floor or anyone who is done eating and is just taking a breather at their table. Las thing we want is for anything to be awkward.

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Yes. I agree. Thank you!

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That makes sense. We're having a sweetheart table as well but we'll be having a buffet. Not sure if that will make a difference.

View Quoted Comment I would maybe ask your venue if they can put a plate together of your buffet options. My SIL just had he wedding and I don't recall them going through the buffet line. I'm pretty sure a server made up and brought them plates.

View Quoted Comment Dismiss rows at the end of ceremony and greet guests at the cocktail hour. It cuts down the time you spend on table visits because they don’t feel the need to interrupt your meal, nor do you need to retreat to a private section of the venue to eat.

View Quoted Comment I mean I wasn’t trying to be rude. In my experience we didn’t have any issues. Eating the food we paid for was a priority for us. It’s literally one of the only things my husband was looking forward to. So, we ate. Even if someone would have come to talk to us, I would have ate. We ate and then went to visit and hangout with our guests.
You can ask tell them you’ll find them when you’re done eating for the picture, to finish the conversation whatever. I never understood when people say they don’t get a chance to eat. Eating is a pretty basic thing it doesn’t have to be complicated. I’m hungry I’m eating we’ll chat in a bit.

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View Quoted Comment Brilliant. I'll definitely ask about that. Thank you

View Quoted Comment I know. I didn't sense you were being rude. It's just funny that that thought even slipped my mind lol

View Quoted Comment We had a cocktail hour and a half we attended in full save 15 minutes. We interacted with every guest. However, when our reception came: We had a sweetheart table. We had a buffet, though servers brought us food so we didn’t have to go through the line. We each ate about 4 bites of food before people interrupted us.


OP, if it’s important to you to get to enjoy your meal and time with your brand-new husband, I suggest implementing some kind of barrier (eating privately, a butler as a gate keeper, etc.).

View Quoted Comment Got it. Thank yoy

View Quoted Comment Lol. Ok. I was like oh no!

View Quoted Comment Lol I appreciate the clarification

View Quoted Comment 😂😂😂 I love it and I'd hire you lol!

We're going to be at our cocktail hour so hopefully we'll have a chance to greet people there, but when dinner starts, we're being served at our sweetheart table (my FH has dietary restrictions so the kitchen is making him a special dinner, and I'll be served stuff from our buffet but without going through the line), and then tables will be dismissed to get food, the buffet is actually set up outside of the ballroom, so hopefully we'll be able to get 15-20 minutes of time alone eating. We also plan on sneaking away with our photographer for sunset pictures. We also plan on taking about 15 minutes after our first look pictures, before our wedding party pictures and family pictures just to get our emotions under control and have that moment just us, before the craziness begins.

View Quoted Comment Very scheduled! We were thinking of doing sunset photos too. We'll just have to see how the night goes