Autism Coping Mechanism

Your dress is beautiful!! I especially love the sleeves and details on the bottom of the dress. As for a fidget idea, what about attaching a short decorative ribbon to the end of your sleeve by your wrist that you can hold in your palm? You could also attach a single charm to it.

Your dress is gorgeous! Could you get a beaded bracelet with some room to fidget with the beads? If they're smooth they shouldn't snag your dress. Also, if you have pockets you could keep something in there to fidget with.

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Maybe! That is definitely something to consider *.*

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I do have one actually and I had thought of wearing it. Just wasn't sure because of it being long sleeved how that will work out.

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I wear bracelets with long sleeves all the time. I don't think it would be odd if that's what you're worried about.

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No more of it being covered up or hard to reach depending on the bracelet

As noted before, your dress is beautiful.

You may check into neurofeedback therapy via a psychologist. I don't know much about it but the therapy seems to help reorganize a person's mind/thoughts to handle crowd situations better.

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Maybe. I don't quite have the money for that though. I am in my last semester of college and student teaching so not a lot of time to work unfortunately.

They make fidget rings, could put one on your right hand. Might be helpful to have a couple types.

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Probably will! I'll look into it.

Wow your dress is beautiful! You can add some charms to your bouquet and I definitely second the ring idea... check out Mint & Lily they sell a few fidget rings. Best of luck to you!

Maybe try tying a flowy ribbon to your bouquet (just not too long or you could trip)

I like the bouquet idea, but you probably won't have it during the actual ceremony. I think a bracelet would be fine since you know that works for you. My FH uses me as a fidget -- he plays with my hand, rubs my palm, laces and unlaces our fingers, etc. We have already discussed holding hands during the ceremony so he can fidget.

A "spinner ring" for your right is an option. It could be engraved and part of your wedding heirlooms.

Clinical psychologist in training here who works with young adults and young kiddos with autism (which yes you are correct, Asperger’s was the DSM-IV classification and now they have every diagnosis under the single diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder in the DSM-V and DSM-V-TR, but that’s more clinical). Anyways, I think it’s amazing you are being so open about your diagnosis and considering your elevation triggers beforehand as weddings can be stressful! However, they can also be exciting! Congratulations on getting engaged and soon to be married - it’s a wonderful and exciting time, but as you mentioned can be stressful too. I would say that if you are used to fidgeting with a bracelet or something on your wrist, I would consider that again (but a material that won’t snag, like maybe wrapping a lace bracelet around your wrist with a charm or without). Maybe also possibly carrying a small handkerchief that matches your dress that you could hold/fidget with during the ceremony or any other time and ask your MOH to hold it during the vows etc. and it’s a bonus because when happy tears are shed you can wipe them away with it! I’m not sure what the tradition is with handkerchiefs with the bride so I can’t speak on that but if you’re used to doing something with your hands I recommend that since that’s familiar to you, as well as your contact with your FH that helps you in those times, hope that helps and best of luck with wedding planning and have an amazing day on your wedding!

Clinical therapist here! I haven't had any of my clients on the spectrum get married yet (they're all teens) but I've recommended fidget rings to clients for dances before or if they were concerned about their fidget tools being too obvious. https://www.etsy.com/market/fidget_ring I've found these to be really helpful and I've had one myself at one time and loved it. Of course I lost it... But they have some nice dainty ones that would be great even in wedding photos. If you want to stick to a bracelet I would find one that you feel comfortable enough that it wouldn't snag on your dress- smooth beads would be great in this situation.

Maybe a small fidget like a charm towards the bottom of your bouquet where the cloth ties around the flowers might work.

It might be subtle enough to have people pay more attention to you and your fiancé than what you are doing with your fingers until you are putting the rings on each other.

I like the idea of a fidget ring, some of them can be really pretty!

Your dress is gorgeous!!

You look beautiful in that dress! Mine is very similar but without sleeves. I agree with everyone that if your used to a bracket it might be better. Maybe fake pearls? They would be smooth so they won't catch and would match the dress nicely. I figit with hair ties, especially in interviews when I'm nervous, I tie and untie them. So maybe as your starting to feel more overwhelmed you can start to slide it out from under your sleeve so it's ready if you get elevated, or hold it for when you get elevated? Maybe you can practice while getting dressed? I love the idea of silk ribbons also. Since I was a toddler I've loved the silk edging on blankets and still have a small baby blanket at 33 because the edging calms me down. I play with jackets and stuff that have that same feeling. Best of luck on your wedding!!

You are so beautiful and gorgeous in your dress. So stunning. All of the ladies have great ideas for you especially the charm bracelet that you can attach to the sleeve of your dress or a ribbon with a charm. Wishing the best