Aunt Flo Wants to Come to the Wedding...

How soon is your wedding? This is not advice, I’m only saying what I would do and I would probably just take bc to skip the period.

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Tara, it's in exactly a month...lol

There's a good chance I will be in this position as well. They do have period underwear out there. That's basically like a pad underwear. I've heard of the brand THINX before. Maybe check that out.

You could try a menstrual cup! I know they’re kinda intimidating for some people but I started using one and love it! And you can pretty much wear it all day depending how heavy it is that day. You could probably empty it or put it in right before you get in your dress and be good for the rest of the night! I have the blossom cup brand but there’s tons of them. I see that you’re getting married in June and I’ve tried using birth control to skip my period and it usually doesn’t work very well even if you’ve been taking it for awhile (for me anyway)

Same boat🤚🏼 Mine is supposed to start the next day which means cramps, bloating, breakouts on the wedding day. I’m rebuking it in Jesus name😂😂

View Quoted Comment I’ve never tried the cup but seriously, everyone who uses them says they’re great and you could wear it all day!! Just like she said, you should be able to wait til the end of the night to take it out. I’d back it up with a pad probably but this may be a good option!

I third the cup!! I’m older and sorry to tell you girls but it usually gets heavier flow as you get older 😡 and I can wear it for a while and forget it. I would wear a backup pad but this month practice with it. It takes a little trial and error at first but once you get the hang of it it’s awesome!!!

I would also look into Thinx. They’re amazing and a good backup to a tampon or cup so you don’t have worry about leaks.

Okay welll.... DONT try the cup for the first time in your wedding dress 😳, I’ve not tried it but from friend’s reports there’s a little bit of a learning curve and each cup and each cervix are not created equally haha so what works for one isn’t the right fit for the next. So if you’re going to try , try it out ASAP. My contingency plan was going to be to buy some of that period underwear (thinx? I think) and not to rely on it but to have it as secondary back up coupled with the tampon....and there’s also the “garbage bag method” to lift and protect your dress while peeing (cut a hole in the top of an oversized trash bag and pull it on like a slip/underskirt, and then gather the dress into the bag and hold it up), offers some protection to the dress . Alternatively while a pain, you could have someone help you in and out of your dress to use the bathroom, so it’s sure to be safe.
To be honest I wouldn’t recommend any rash changes or experiments so close to the wedding.

Ill also say: relax! Hopefully you may be pleasantly surprised. I’m also bc-free and super regular, but wedding stress/excitement threw me off! So I didn’t have the issue I was anticipating. It was kind of bizarre— my period actually came
early, DIRECTLY the week between my bachelorette and the wedding. Haha it was amazing, I was so pleased 🤣— so you never know, wedding pressure can do crazy things to a body!

I recommend wearing a menstrual cup (I find that the DivaCup worked best for me) you may want to practice putting it in a few times pre-wedding because if it doesn’t have a good suction it can leak a bit. Definitely wear a pantomimed with it or if you’re very concerned get a pair of thinx (or maybe an alternate brand as thinx is pricey). I had a pretty heavy flow when I had periods and my cup typically lasted 6-8 hours before leaks happened. If you’re having a long wedding day you may want to also purchase a bridal buddy just in case you do have to dump and rinse your cup

(Id also be extra terrified about handling the cup in a big white dress 😳 especially if you don’t exactly have a feel for it yet— point being only rely on it if you feel comfortable with it!!)

I'll be in the same situation 😣. I use a menstrual cup during my cycle. On my heaviest days it usually lasts me about 8-10 hours. Not sure how far your big day is but you can start trying it on your next cycle so you can get used to it.

Keep tons of pads and tampons handy in a purse and/or with your MOH, take ibuprofen, use a heating pad while getting ready... my obgyn gave me a prescription for naproxen and it’s changed my life. I used to be curled up in a ball in tears when I had cramps (literally) and the naproxen helps sooo much. Your dr would probably write you a prescription for it if you asked for it... it’s literally the same ingredients as Aleve, just extra strength. I’ve also been told to take the pain killer AS SOON as you start to feel cramps, even faintly. That way the ibuprofen can also prevent too much inflammation before it gets too bad. If you wait until you’re in a ton of pain, it’s already too late to stop the inflammation!

If it’s any consolation, I got my period at my bridal shower. Literally at it. I was reading from my “advice jar” and all the sudden... holy crap, OW 🙄 I took naproxen and within 30 minutes was feeling FINE. It started hurting pretty badly the next day which makes me convinced it actually probably hurt the whole shower but I guarantee you I was so distracted and on adrenaline that I seriously barely felt it... and this coming from someone who gets awful cramps. I never believed when people said “it doesn’t matter if you have your period at your wedding, you’ll be too distracted to even be bothered by it” but after my experience with my shower, now I’m one of those people saying that :p

You ladies are awesome! LOVE the trashbag idea to protect the dress! I might consider the underwear for added protection...maybe the cup but the thought of it weirds me out lol. I'm very on schedule (getting it today!) so as trial and error I might try the cup for this impending period...

View Quoted Comment You’ll know the cup is in right if you can’t feel it! I also saw that you are a mom so make sure you get the right kind of cup for that because it will be shaped a little differently! If you use a divacup youd get the model 2

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Kristen, you're a godsend! I would have never thought of that!!

View Quoted Comment I would not try cup for the first time on your wedding day 😬 It takes some getting used to & you don’t want to be doing that in your dress, unless you try it this cycle & see how it goes.

I agree with pp about Thinx period undies, as an added protection. I use them & they are awesome & super comfy! They have them in nude color so it’s perfect for under the wedding dress especially if the dress is not fitted around bum area.

I AM GOING TO BE ON MINE FOR MY WEDDING TOO!!!!

As soon as we booked the venue and the date I was like super excite and then I was like "ohh nooo!" I looked at my period app and my heart fell in my butt.

I get ridiculously emotional, super bloated, and I have some medical issues so it is extremely painful for me and I am dreading it

My freaking period has been like clock work for YEARS. Last month it came 8 freaking days early so now I'm scheduled to be on my heaviest day for the wedding. I'm SO MAD. But I'm just planning the Ikea bag hack and do what I have to do. Plus really heavy tampons and a pad backup. I have a ballgown thank god so I can wear what underwear I want.

Grateful for this discussion. I've been wondering about the cup.