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August Brides, What are your plans due to Covid-19?

Nicolette, on April 27, 2020 at 9:53 AM Posted in Community Conversations 2 86
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My Fiancé and I were supposed to get married on March 28th in upstate NY. 3 weeks prior to our date is when the whole pandemic really heated up so we thought we made the right decision on postponing to August 16th. We figured 5 months was plenty of time. Now here we are, almost in May and we are really torn on what to do. I in my heart feel like it may work out for our August date, but still we are not sure. I really don't want to wait until 2021, but we also don't want to have a small wedding (Ive been dreaming of this my whole life!) Anyone else in the same boat?!

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  • Caitlin
    Devoted June 2021
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    Me! Our wedding is 8-15 in Illinois where it is still bad. I do not want to give up my dream wedding Smiley sad we are holding out another month or so before we make a decision.
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  • Jess
    Devoted May 2021
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    I totally understand. I'm in September and I really don't want to cut our guest list and I also don't want to wait until 2021... but ultimately I'm not willing to sacrifice my big wedding that I've been working so hard on. So if we can't have it in September, we will probably move it. I'm just worried because of everyone moving and not being able to find a new date. Having it in September 2021 isn't an option because one my bridesmaids is getting married then and I'm going to be in her wedding. Ugh, this is all just a mess!

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  • Nicolette
    Beginner July 2021
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    I think we might do the same. Dont know if I can handle the uncertainty for another month! Also we are worried there won't be any decent dates left in 2021 if we wait too long to postpone again. It was such a pain the first time around, really don't want to have to stress about it again.

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  • M
    Savvy May 2020
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    We postponed from May to August 16. We are not willing to postpone again, even if it means giving up on the wedding we planned. At this point, I will be extremely happy if I can marry the love of my life with our immediate family members there. Even if it means losing tens of thousands of dollars that we’ve already paid and can’t get back. I wish you all the best and pray your day is perfect for you, no matter when it happens.
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  • Caitlin
    Devoted June 2021
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    Yes, we talked to our venue and put a tentative date on another date so our venue is suppose to let us know if it gets taken so we know!
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  • Nicolette
    Beginner July 2021
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    See this is where I've been torn. I strongly felt this way as well, if we can't do it big just forget it and do it with our close family. Then I look in our guest room and see all the stuff we bought over the last year and a half for our big day and it makes me rethink it all over again. Such a mess, but trying to remember its about me and my love and that's what really matters in the end.

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  • Emily
    Dedicated August 2021
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    We had to cancel our wedding 6 days out (was supposed to be March 22) and rescheduled to August 9th. My FH and I don’t think that date is going to work either though. Realistically even if we’re technically allowed to be out in public, none of our out of town friends/family are going to risk getting on a plane (I don’t want them to - the two people who flew out for our original wedding before it was canceled both got COVID-19 from the plane). We’ve been brainstorming different ideas - postponing a year or two, just doing something small... Nothing really interests us but we do know that if we have to cancel our August wedding again we aren’t going to postpone the same big wedding to another date. That will Just be too painful, even though we’ll be losing so much money.
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  • Morgan
    Devoted December 2020
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    Truthfully I wouldn’t postpone just yet. My wedding is scheduled for December 12th and we definitely have a back up plan but we won’t decide that until a month or 2 at most before. No one knows how the next few months are going to play out. Could be good or bad. Good luck!!
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  • Nicolette
    Beginner July 2021
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    Aw man, I know how you feel. The money is a huuuuuge factor. We don't have a ton of out of town guests, but enough to not want them to fly. Is it too much to ask them to drive from Florida to NY lol? Hope this gets better for all of us!

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  • Nina
    Beginner August 2020
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    We are August 21st and I feel like I don't have enough information right now to make the best decision. We are giving things until June to decide. At the same time, I am generally okay with trimming the guest list to fit into any event limit parameters that may be in place at that time. But if I wanted to be sure that I could have all 285 of my invited guests there, I'd probably postpone just to be safe and to ease a little anxiety!

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  • McKenzie
    Devoted August 2020
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    Ours is 08/08/20, in Oregon! It's on his parents property so I'm hoping that will be our saving grace. I really don't want to postpone but if we have to then we have to. :l

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  • Kelly
    Beginner August 2020
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    My wedding is supposed to be on 8/15/20. As soon as we were engaged, I hit the ground running and got all of the big vendors (venue, photographer, videographer, make-up artist) within like a week and a half. I have everything exactly the way I want it (if you can’t tell, I’m a bit type A) and this is really crushing me. Right now, our venue is only giving people with weddings in the first two weeks of June the option to reschedule, and will continue providing this option two weeks at a time. So I just feel stuck and stressed. I’m worried that we’ll have to move it and by that time all good dates will be taken, or I’ll have to settle for a smaller wedding. I sort of wish I could just change my date now to have more certainty and still be able to have a bridal shower and bachelorette party and all that without worrying.
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  • Lauren
    Beginner August 2020
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    We postponed from April 24th to August 28th but who knows! We waited as long as possible (like 2 weeks out) to postpone our April date and well probably do the same for the August date if it goes that far. We have talked about pushing it until next year as much as we don't want to do that
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  • Christie
    Savvy May 2021
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    I totally understand, my wedding is supposed to be in August. It is so difficult, not only making a decision but knowing WHEN to make a decision. It's like everyday is an emotional roller coaster! I feel you, I don't want my wedding to dwindle down to five people but I also don't want to lose money! On top of that, there is everyone's opinion, people in my family think I should wait others think I should move it because I worked so hard to have a special day the way I wanted it--it goes on and on.

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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
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    My original date is 10-30-2020, but my fiance and me decided to postpone till next Oct. Makes me sad to have to wait so long, but we already had family members that wouldn't be able to make it. N the uncertainty of everything made us not want to wait it out. Hopefully this will all be over soon.
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  • Tara
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Ugh - it's such a tough place to be in. We're in Washington state and are still on a stay-home-stay-healthy order. Light restrictions have been lifted but there is no guarantee we will be allowed to wed in august. I'm going to try and wait til June to make a decision since that would be when we send out invites anyway. Hang in there! Smiley heart

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  • Kenzie
    Dedicated August 2020
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    My date is August 29th and I'm in Maryland. I am currently waiting until my venue allows us to postpone until next year. I really don't think this will be better by then in this area. Even if restrictions are lifted, I don't see 200 people being allowed to be together without social distancing.

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  • Katherine
    Beginner August 2021
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    Our date was set for August 14th in westchester county, ny and we are working on postponing. I just can’t imagine we’d be able to have 130 guests plus vendors in 3 months, and I doubt our older family and friends would feel comfortable. It’s heartbreaking to postpone but I couldn’t handle the uncertainty.
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  • Melissa
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    I’m with you
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    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    I'm an August Bride for the 22nd of this year and everyday is a battle to fight back tears and depression of the unknown and frustration. Our Venue has only offered to rescheduled our day until 60 days before which by then all the prime dates will be gone from others rescheduled before us. On top of that the Venue will only allow us to reschedule until April 2021 which means they are not giving us the opportunity to reschedule our summer wedding to next year so we will most likely have to get a lawyer involved as if I'm not already stressed out enough. I think it depends on what State you live in for how concerned you should be. I'm in NJ and our Governor has no plans to reopen our State whatsoever or has even offered to get our marriage license virtually. My only back up plan is try to have it early September of this year on a Monday or Thursday but will most likely have a low guest count or get a lawyer involved to get our money back and renew our vows or hold a wedding at another time down the road when this is all over with.

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