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Rylie
Savvy May 2022

Attire for the mother of the Bride and Groom

Rylie, on July 16, 2021 at 8:44 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 22
I just started discussing attire for what the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom would wear. My color pallette for the wedding is gray with accents of peach. I thought a blue toned dress for both mothers would be a nice addition and wouldn't make them stand out with the wedding colors. However, my mother would like to choose her own dress color that's not blue, as she believes it does not suit her, but would preferably wear something pastel. I would like her in the blue as its a good color and would not mind at all if it was pastel. However, if it is a color other than blue I'm a bit apprehensive about what other color would be chosen. Am I wrong to want to choose her dress color? Am I wrong to feel apprehensive about a different color? Does it sound like I'm being too controlling?

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Latest activity by Ashlee, on July 20, 2021 at 4:56 PM
  • KiwiDerbyBride
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    You’re going to get a lot of replies saying that the only people whose outfit colours you get to choose are the bridal party. I was most concerned that my mum wore something she felt amazing in, regardless of colour. Let her choose her own dress colour.

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  • Rylie
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    Thanks for the comment KiwiDerbyBride!
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  • Michelle
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    Let her pick what she wants to wear. Parents do not match the bridesmaids. Azazie has a wide selection of Mom of the bride/groom dresses or shop locally at Ross, Burlington, Macy’s, Dillards, Nordstrom Rack, etc
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  • Rylie
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    Thanks for the comment.
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    She doesn't need to match the bridal party. My bridesmaids wore fire engine red and my mom wore a light purple. She picked a dress that she liked and was comfortable in. I was just happy she found something she liked.
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  • Rylie
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    Thanks Veronica!
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  • Stacey
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    Let her pick whatever she feels beautiful and comfortable in. Smiley smile It's a big day for her too and I bet she's looking forward to getting all dolled up! As long as her private parts are covered, you are good Smiley xd

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  • Rylie
    Savvy May 2022
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    Just to clarify, I want my mother and my future mother-in-law to wear a complimentary color to the bridesmaids. I dont want the mother of the bride or groom to match the bridesmaids, I would just like for them be in a different color that does not stand our/clash with the color pallette that I have chosen.
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  • Rylie
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    Lola Thanks Stacey!
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  • Katherine
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    I let my mom and his mom pick their own dresses. My future MIL wants two different dresses one for ceremony and other for reception. As long as they aren't white idc. My mom was completely against wearing a blue dress since grooms side usually wears blue. My MIL did choose a blue dress.
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  • Rylie
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    Thanks for the input Katherine!
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  • Jm Sunshine
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    I was MOB and I wanted a dress that matched the color scheme of navy/blush but certainly didn't want to look like a bridesmaid. I found one at Dillard's with a navy background and blush/burgundy flowers. The bonus was that it had pockets! I wanted to "compliment" the family photos.
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  • Rylie
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    Thank you JM Sunshine! That is exactly what I'm trying to accomplish with my mother and her dress. She wants to choose the color and I'm afraid it won't compliment the family photos.
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  • Jasmine S.
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    I understand wanting a somewhat cohesive look for photos, but I think another pastel color will look fine. My mom and MIL want to wear the wedding colors, but this isn't always the case. Let her pick something she likes 🙂
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  • Janae
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    I would suggest giving your Mama a chance to choose a few options in different colors. That way you can have a variety of different options. Maybe something she chooses will go along with what you envision. Bottom line is, your Mama should feel good in what she is wearing that day, just like you should feel good in what you are wearing. For us ladies, wearing something we do not feel good in often influences our mood! You want your Mama to feel confident and beautiful the day of your wedding, so at least hear her out.

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  • Rylie
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    Thanks Janae!
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  • VIP August 2020
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    I think it's fine to give her a color or color family to choose from. (If she's dead set against blue, maybe you could also offer her green or something else?) She'll be heavily photographed that day with other people whose outfits coordinate. Also, most people's fathers wear suits/tuxes that are very similar to the groomsmen's attire, so I don't think it's out of line at all for you to specify a color for the mothers' dresses.
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  • VIP November 2021
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    A mint would compliment your color pallet or even a lavender!
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  • Ashley
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    Initially I suggested to my mom that she might want to coordinate with the colors on my side for photos, but after a lot of searching she simply could not find a green dress that she liked. She ended up wearing a lavender/mauve dress. Totally didn't coordinate but I also didn't really take photos with my parents AND the bridesmaids in the same shot, so in the end it didn't really matter. And if you consider which photos you're going to want to look at later, you with your parents will probably be a separate shot from you and your bridesmaids, so it's unlikely that color clashes will happen in the same photo.
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  • Kari
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    I personally would not put someone in a color that they don't feel comfortable in. I have am fair skinned with cool undertones so blues look great on me but reds don't and overly pastel colors wash me out entirely. If someone put me in a taupe dress I would not feel confident at all! I do think its fair to say if there are any colors that should be avoided (for example, something that would clash horribly) but other than that I don't think you should dictate what color they wear. With gray and peach I think nearly any color could work and not look offensive.

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