Attending showers right now?

I also wouldn't travel 1,000 miles for a shower without a pandemic, so I may not be the target audience here. But really, interstate travel isn't advisable currently and I can't imagine you choosing not to attend (while still sending a gift) would actually damage relationships. You know the parties involved best of course, but I wouldn't let fear of potential reprisal influence your decision about this.

I think you should follow your gut. If your gut is telling you not to make that drive or be around others during this pandemic, then don't go. I personally wouldn't go because of the pandemic. Too much of a risk for me.

I think it would be pretty safe to go as long as they are socially distancing. I am having my bridal shower in August and we are doing it outside at a country club. People are free to wear masks if they wish but we have spaced tables a part and it actually is quite a large space for the amount of people. But on the other hand you said it was 1,000 miles that is SO far. I would just decline and send the gift. It's a long way to go for a couple of hours, I would hope they understand.

I think it'd be appropriate not to go and just send a gift. 1000 miles is such a long way to travel for a shower even without a pandemic

I would sit this one out. I'd send a gift and reach out to the bride explaining you can't come.

Schedule-wise and financially it's no big deal. We live far away from any family on either side, so in order to spend any time together we have to travel and we understand that. I am more family-oriented and my husband isn't, and I would normally never miss this chance to build these connections. I am most concerned about getting something before or during travel and then spreading it to others.

If you do go, fly on Southwest or Delta. Those are the only airlines that I know of that are still not selling the middle seats. I had to fly a few months ago and it really wasn't too bad. I wiped down everything, wore a mask, and stayed away from people. I am flying again this weekend to go back to where I am from for my Bachelorette party and I am not worried.

I would follow your gut here. If you aren't comfortable with it, don't do it. If you were driving, it could be less worrisome, but flying is definitely concerning right now. I'm sure they'll understand. I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress!

You are 100% in the clear to not go - I thought you were talking a couple hours away by car. I've missed a baby shower and a bridal shower for friends who were across the country; while I wanted to go, I knew it just wasn't feasible. I would be hard pressed to attend a shower 1,000 miles away unless it was a VERY close friend or family member. I think they should understand.