Attend wedding without fiancé?

I would. I've attended weddings of co-workers, and 2 of my cousins' wedding, without my husband. He really wasn't interested in attending any of them. He didn't know any of the co-workers; in fact, our whole table was made up of guests without their spouses. For my cousins, we had to take a flight, so it was pricey.

Why would they include you on your parents invitation?

As adults, you should receive your own invitation.

@Kathy R. I'm assuming because I live with them for now. I was thinking the same though because I had already saved them for their own invitation

That's super rude. I wouldn't attend without my SO.

I had a similar situation last summer. It was my brother's wedding, and I was told they could only afford plus ones if it was a married couple. FH and I weren't engaged yet, but had been together 6 years. It was a shit storm, and FH is still salty about it. I went, obviously. Family is family. Regardless of how rude or douchey I perceive them to be....

ETA: I recommend keeping it to yourself, in public. If you have to say something, it needs to be said in private. Don't be petty.

I'm sorry I find that very rude he should have been invited. He is going to be family and should be treated as such.

That would be an easy decline for me. I already declined one wedding where my fiance wasn't invited with me. I'm not getting dressed up, buying a gift, and in most cases traveling to an event where I can sit alone while everyone else dances with their so.

Hard pass.

Your an adult and should be invited as an adult not a child regardless of where you live.

She getting married what, a month before you? If the situation were reversed she would expect to bring her FH.

Nope. This is rude on so many levels.

Each member of your family over the age of 18, should have received a separate invite, with their SO's name on it. Personally I would call the hosts of the wedding and ask them, then decline.

I would not go to the shower or the wedding.

OP, when you said you had "saved them" -- I am assuming that means you sent them save the dates. I think STDs are a mistake most times. They commit you. You can send a very nice letter to VIPs like grandparents. Your parents and bridal party know the date.

Nope. I would be annoyed and decline.

This is a personal decision. If this kind of rudeness is a deal breaker for you -- and make no mistake, this is incredibly rude (it's not even questionable -- you're going to be married to this man in less than three months) -- then decline.

If you find it immature, stupid, and forgivable, then I'd at least call her and tell her that your FH cannot attend because her wedding coincides with his BP. She'll be speechless, but the both of you will know exactly what you're saying.

This is totally up to you. Personally, this would stick with me (if I attended) for years to come.

I wouldn't say anything personally but that's just me. Rude of them - yes. But making it uncomfortable by pointing it out and them probably saying they couldn't invite him to do size or only inviting married couples etc is even more uncomfortable ( and still rude on their part) so id decide to attend alone or just not go but I wouldn't say something. To me, there's no confusion - they sent the invite to your family and didn't include your fh. Had you got your own invite, then there might be doubt it was a mistake but this doesn't seem like a mistake

Out if respect they should have sent you an invitation like an adult.

I'd you think you'll enjoy some free food and booze out of the situation, you could still go. That's very rude though. Even if they were trying to save invitations by not sending you a separate one, they could've added FH to the number.

The question is why are you bothered by this? I mean yes its rude not to include the FH but he wasn't going to go anyway. Its the same day as his bachelor party. So if you wanted to go you would still be going without him because of the BP. I would accept and go because either way your FH wasn't going to attend. Rude yes but he would decline anyway. Or is it a rule somewhere etiquette wise that says we can't go to weddings without our SO. (Shrugs)

I do not think I would go but I also would not invite them to my wedding. I am not close with any cousins. If you are close, I do not see a problem with going. I think it is weird they treated you like a kid and put you on your parents invite though.

I wouldn't go. If they failed to budget well enough to include engaged couples, it's on them. And you should have gotten an individual invitation. I wouldn't go to either. Not because I never go to social events without my partner; we do that all the time (partly because of our work) but because it's fundamentally rude and chintzy.

And I have to say there is almost no written word I hate more than "shrugs".

@melissah how do you know it was international? People post on here all the time how they forget to add things on invites. Maybe whomever sent the invite only counted 5 because that was the amount of people in the parents house. I wouldn't just assume they intentionally left the fiancee out because believe it or not everyone doesn't know or just chooses not to follow what etiquette says. If you are close enough to this couple I would ask them and 9 times out of 10 they will say shit we forgot to add the FH cause they were adding people in the household. That was evident when the envelope was addressed to the parents but they put the 5 in the household on the RSVP. But again the FH isn't going to attend anyway so what's the problem?

Alana, while no rule exists that says you can't go to a wedding without your so there is a thing called basic etiquette that dictates that so's are a social unit and should be invited together. You're then free to decide if you go without your so or not. Shrugs.