Assuming you're invited to my wedding

Definitely annoying, but honestly, don't worry too much about it. Invite who you want to invite and they will get over it.

Half of them are just sharing the excitement and talking about going, but will not be offended when they don't receive an invitation. More people than you think recognize how hard it is to make invitation decisions and understand the cost, etc. I had a BUNCH of friends who I talked to about the wedding prior to making my final guestlist, all of whom talked as though they would be there. None got invitations and they were all fine with it. I was still able to chat with them about the big day and they totally understood you have to draw the line somewhere.

The other half can suck it. If they are going to be rude and assume their going and create an awkward situation then they can cry in the corner when they don't get one. That's poor taste on their part and not something you should concern yourself with.

There are obviously going to be a FEW you may have to actually deal with -- family who might cause a big commotion, etc -- but in the end, invite who you want to invite and don't give it a second thought.

Eh, people get excited about weddings. just smile and say we're still working on the guest list or we're only able to have things be very small and intimate or i wish i could invite everyone! then leave it at that. no big thang.

Yes I'm planning on saying we are having small intimate wedding. Which is true since we are paying for are our wedding, finically we can't afford to have a bigger one.

I've learned that ASKING to be invited to the wedding is rude... but assuming they are usually just means they think of you as a better friend that you do. I have been asked by people i don't consider friends, can I come to your wedding? I feel as though that is very rude. But I can't wait for your wedding etc etc etc is like andixlyn said... excitement!

Agree! Some people are on our guest list because they started talking about the wedding and asked if they would be invited. Since we were in the working stages of guest list I just played it off saying we hadn't finished, but of course they would be. Didn't raise us too many people and whatever I'm sure they will have a great time. BUT IT IS ANNOYING!!

The mom to the neighbor kid my son always plays with wants an invite to the wedding. She has told my son she wants one. Um, no. I don't hang out with her; why would I invite her??

I was at a house party recently and an old friend of my FH's was there, who he hasn't seen in over 5 years. No bad blood there, just grew apart, different groups, etc. I had never met him. Anyway introduced myself, chatted, was normal. He asked about our wedding, "When's the big day?" etc, still no problem, chatting away. Then he says... "SEE YOU THERE."

What.

No.

Not see you there.

Awkward.

I am worried about if my coworkers expect invitations. I want to include them, but we have not finalized our list. Our numbers have gotten high and that will be the first area I have to cut so I am trying not to talk wedding.

YES! super annoying. For me its more of my family wanting to invite people they are friends with and I assume that these friends assume they are invited because my family keeps talking to them about it! I'm just trying to ignore it and hopefully they will get the hint especially if I don't talk to them about it all. So my advice is to ignore and move on, a year after the wedding they won't even care.

I have tons of cousins who seem to think they are invited to the entire thing, when really they are being invited to the dance reception, but not the ceremony (we are limiting the ceremony due to FH not liking to be in front of crowds due to PTSD). I try not to talk about it to the cousins and they will know what they are invited to in the near future when STDs go out.

Definitely! A girl I went to HS (she's friends w/ a cousin) walked up to me and gave me her address AND her new BF's name. Mind you, her and I have not spoken in 10 yrs. Her and my cousin are mad she's not invited. However, I don't care.

The worst is when you finalize it and make the cuts and your mother says a family friend who you've known since you were 4 but didn't make the cut says family friend is sad she did didn't make the cut but understands.... Holy guilt tripping!

Yeah, I had that happen a lot when we first got engaged. "Congrats! I'll definitely be coming!" Umm, no you won't lol. But like Andi said, people are just excited, I smiled along and just thanked them.

But, I'm invited to your wedding, right?

;-)

See, I thought I was the rude one. I posted on facebooFacebook asking who would come if I had it here in town and they were invited... Since the majority of my important people are out of towners, with my local circle being mainly minor people I've collected in the few years I've been here. Suddenly all these people I considered minor (maybe we got drunk together twice at parties or something before I met my SO) ... Not only early-RSVPing but also telling me how they would dress (because I am having a zombie theme). Since the wedding wonwon't be until July of 2016, there's still plenty of time to refine the list, and surely some of these people may become closer in the coming months. But I will probably have to make a lot of cuts.