Assigned Seating?

We're assigning tables, not seats. What are you afraid of not working out?

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I'm worried that some people may not like the other people at the table that they were assinged to, so they are either going to complain about it or go sit somewhere else!

We are doing assigned seating. Personally I think if they don’t like who they’re sitting by they can still be polite and nice for a few hours. We’re doing it so people don’t have to pick whom to sit by.

I have farm tables at my wedding. I wasn't going to do assigned seating, BUT, it was suggested by my coordinator to do at least assigned tables. Because it makes for no one being lefts out or on their own. Which I like that a lot and it's very considerate

We are doing assigned tables but not seats. I want people to be able to sit where they want at the table. We have a lot of guests who are coming as individuals who don't know many people so I want to make sure they have people to sit with

I’m doing assigned tables. I like the idea of putting people, who may not know each other, with others I think they would get along with. Obviously, keep people at separate tables, if you know they do not get along/like each other. However, if separating them is not an option, there is no reason they can’t be cordial with each other for a few hours.

What do you ladies think you’ll do for the people who don’t RSVP, but still show up?

View Quoted Comment They don’t have a seat or a meal. You should be following up with anyone who doesn’t rsvp so that you know who is coming. After the rsvp deadline give them a call and say “if I don’t hear back from you by X date I will unfortunately have to mark you as a no”.

Please at at least assign tables! People don’t seat themselves efficiently, so we will need at least 25% extra seating if you don’t so that families don’t get split up.

With a large party (just shy of 200) we needed to assign tables or else there would be families split up all over the place. (Imagine being that family of 6 who was running late because you got stuck in traffic between the ceremony and reception...and finding out that there's only single seats at tables left! Ooof!)

We made our best efforts to seat people with people they would get along with. People that don't get along - well they sat on separate sides of the room.

Usually when you sit down and think it through, seating people together ends up working out.

As far as people that don't RSVP but try to show up - if it were me...I would NOT reserve a seat at all, of any kind for them! No RSVP card, no "extra seats," nothing! Part of being a guest is the RSVP. If a non- RSVP guest shows up and they don't see a place card with their name on it - well I hope they brought a chair and a sandwich because it's assumed you followed up with them and they never responded - and that generally means they aren't coming. If they can't give you the decency to RSVP and then ignore your follow up, then they don't deserve a seat. Bam. Done deal lol.

Hi Emily! Some great points raised by the PPs! Will you be doing assigned seating or not?