Assigned seating or reserved tables for reception

Do assigned tables, that will be easier on you and FH, while still giving people an outline of where to sit so it isn't total chaos

I would assign tables to everyone but not seats. Assigning seats sounds like more work then needed. I went to a wedding and they only reserved tables for the family and I didn't like having to find a table.

You are right, you should assign tables for all your guests. Assigning for some and not others lets your guests know just how highly you think of them.. (ie you care about some and not the others).

We will be assigning tables. From there guests can figure out how to seat themselves at the table.

I wouldn't worry about assigning seats, I would not skip assigning tables though. Open tables would be chaos. I have gone to weddings where seats were assigned for plating purposes (they had placed meal choices on the back of the name card) but other than that reason, I don't think it is necessary. Even then though, many people place escort cards in a single place for their guests to grab them and place them at their seat.

Assign tables and not seats...I have never been to a wedding with assigned seats. I think that it will be better to group tables as you see fit and then let the people at each table decide who they want to be near.

I'd be so lost if I didn't have an assigned table.

I was definitely thinking assigned tables and not seats. That's way too detailed... My fiance wants a crazy chaotic free for all...

Absolutely do a seating chart. We're inviting 150 - will doing one be a pain? Yep. Are we doing one anyway? Absolutely.

Tell your FH tough cookies. Just because he doesn't want to have to sit down for a few hours to figure this out doesn't mean you guys should make your guests uncomfortable.

I'm at least doing assigned tables. Seats is still up in the air though because I think it SHOULDN'T be necessary but my family are all Petty Betty and can't play nice so I may assign to make life easier.

I agree with assigning tables. Who wants to sit next to stranger-danger! Plus people will be more comfortable with people they are familiar with. I wouldn't want my guest to feel awkward in any way. If y'all can't come to a conclusion, u might just have to take this task on your own.

Assign tables. No one wants to feel like the first day of school in the cafeteria at a wedding.

I agree with you. Do assigned seats or assigned tables (where they can choose a seat at their table) it is awkward for 150 people to be wandering around like cattle wondering where to sit, especially if they don't know anyone

We are assigning seats, but this is because part of the way I want the table set includes each person's personalized party favor...if it weren't for that I'd assign tables! I'm sure if there are people who want to sit together and there aren't any seats at their table left side by side someone will scoot over, it'll work out!

I don't really see the point of assigned specific seats. Couples will sit next to each other, members of families will sit next to who they want to, friends will sit next to friends, etc. Just because you assign a seat also doesn't mean people won't trade among the table lol.

However, assigned tables is a MUST.

I will say, doing my seating chart took a lot less time than I thought it would. The build up is worse than the actual task

Anyone have any ideas as to how to present this case to my fiance?

Definitely assign tables but assigning specific seats isn't really necessary. Usually the tables only sit 10 so it won't be that hard for people to pick a seat. If the tables were huge and sat 20+ I can see where seats would be helpful.

I would tell him that if you do not assign tables, you need 10-20% extra seats, and that costs money (centerpieces, linens, etc). Not that I recommend that route.

Assign tables but not seats.