Asking someone to be in your wedding party

Hi bonnie. my girls "know" as well but now that we book our venue im going to send them cards formally asking them. FH is the same as urs. They just know. Umm no, ask them. LOL. btw, ur wedding is one year from today! how exciting!

I had my best friend pick me up from the airport right after we came back from your trip and our engagement. I asked her right away in the car ride home. We've been best friends for 15 years....there was no choice to be made! As for FH and his GM, dunno because I wasn't there. But I gather it went something like this: "Hey, I'm getting married". "Cool". "You wanna by my Best Man?". "Sure". "Cool. What's on ESPN?"

My FH asked his cousin to be his best man when they were kids, so that's that. I asked my cousin to be my MOH as soon as I thought I might possibly be getting married. We live in different states so I took advantage of being at our grandparents house together, just asked in person, nothing fancy.My other bridesmaid I took to dinner and asked in person. My baby sis called and said "aren't I going to be in your wedding!!" So I asked her what she would like to do, she said plan it, I said how 'bout a bridesmaid? I don't think it has to be fancy, but official and personal is very important. Even for the guys.

I just asked them and so did my FH. We didn't send any cards or anything. I've never received a card for any of the weddings I've been in.

His groomsmen are all brother and my bridesmaids his 2 sisters n my aunt so we didnt need to do anything fancy lol

We didnt do anything fancy either. I actually asked my BM's via text and FH asked GM and our Officant when he saw them at work. Anyone else involved we either asked in person or via email.

Thanks ladies!!!

@ Melissa...i actually need to change that...i was wanting to get married on 2/11 but we decided to go with a Saturday so its really 2/12...ONE YEAR FROM TODAY!!!

I ordered "will you be my BM" cards from Greeting Card Universe. They were great quality, and you can write whatever you want to on the inside and it comes printed that way. For the groomsmen my husband just asked them. And for flower girls I got them flowers and asked. And for my ring bearers I gave them candy and asked.

I was just going to suggest the cards that Potters is referring to. Many websites have the cards. My bridesmaid knew as well but i hand wrote them all individual letters and gave them the letters at our first meeting & they were all very touched by the gesture. As for groomsmen, my FH just assumed his brother & roomie knew, i asked/told my brother for him & I am still waiting for him to ask his brother-in-law which will probably happen the day before they go to get tuxs. haha! As for the FG, she is our only niece so it was sort of a given but we asked her when we seen her.

I am having a quite different but yet elegant and formal wedding;therefore I wanted to start it off that way from the start.Soooo I decided to be a little creative and personally have a card designed for each BM,MATRON,MAID OH,BST MAN,and so forth.My FH has a large family and we are making this day a memorable one from the heart.I am asking people to be in the wedding that are close to heart not just because;if you know what i mean.Here is an example; Congratulations sweetie,of all the girls i know---you are one of the ones i want standing next to me when I say , I do.Yes that's right,I'm getting married and I am asking you to be a part of my special day;without you my circle will not be complete.So with that being said ,"Please accept the offer of being my bridesmaid;it'll make my day.If not then accept this letter as an invitation ;you are still welcome to come.. Hugs and Kisses from the Bride-to be DeAnna WHAT DO YOU THINK

I searched for poems online on this, then used a cute wedding graphic to make a card and printed one for each girl. I used some scrapbooking supplies to make each one a little cuter and give life to it. I bought each one the book "You Can Wear it Again: A Celebration of Bridesmaid Dresses" and wrote a personal note inside and marking my favorite pages. I put the card on top and a cute ribbon to tie it up. 3 of my girls live out of state, so I mailed it to them, and I haven't yet given it to the girls who live local. Everyone seems to have loved them so far.

Our MOH has 2 little boys, and we sent them the book "The Ring Bearer" because they love books and I am sure their grandma, my future MIL, will read it to them often. Again, we wrote a personal note to them inside the cover.

I also bought my nieces a book about flower girls and junior bridesmaids (will be ages 6 & 11 at time of wedding).

My FH simply asked his friends and they agreed!

We just asked them i had a hard time figuring out who was going to be my MOH my best friend or my sister i ended up choosing my sis. when i asked her she started crying lol bc she thought for sure i was going to ask my best friend to be my MOH. ever since i got engaged every little thing makes me cry lol idk what it is?? am i the only one that this has happened to??? and as for FH & GM i wouldn't know bc i wasn't there except for when he asked his brother to be his B.M. other then that i CAN'T STAND THE REST OF HIS PARTY LET ALONE HIS FAMILY BUT IT'S ONE DAY SO I'LL HAVE TO SUCK IT UP AND DEAL WITH IT THANK GOD IT 3HR OPEN BAR LMAO

If you look on my inspiration board you will see how I asked me girls. I made puzzels and sent them to them in the mail. My FH just called up the boys and asked them. A few he didnt even ask he just thought they knew, HAHA!

I am getting cards and those bridesmaid tanks and sending them to my bridesmaids!

I was sick so I just emailed my girls and asked them. I didn't even know you are supposed to send a card or something. To me its kinda too much. Later when I got better I called them to thank them and start planning. None felt it was inapropriate or cared I asked over email.

I really want my soon to be sisters in law to be in the wedding but i don't know how or when to ask them i need help!!!!

Http://www.greetingcarduniverse.com/Invitations-Wedding Attendants Bridal Party-Be my Bridesmaid?cid=560&ref=hdr

heres the site with the cards. you can personalize them then send them thru the website directly to the girls!

I haven’t executed my bridal party asks – as I just got engaged this past Friday… BUT I’d love to have others weigh in on my idea?!? I’m hoping to create something memorable and a little different.

I plan to have 5 different signs made up with the following text on each one – 1) Will 2) you 3) be 4) my 5) bridesmaid? I’m going to have black & white photographs of me and the signs taken at different places – since we’re getting married in Maine, maybe a lighthouse, the rocky coast, holding a lobster etc and then I’ll mount them in a journal in hopes that the ladies will be able to use the journals to jot down ideas and thoughts about my upcoming nuptials.

Congrats Rebecca S!

My best friend and i have planned on being eachothers maid of honors since we were little girls. I didnt have to ask her. My bridesmaids are my now 13 year cousin and my 22 year old work friend. I asked my cousin when we were at a family gathering, and i asked my friend in person. It seems really diffucult and it is. But once you do it its simple.