Asking guest for money for accommodations

Trust yourself. We are renting a house and asking people to chip in for their rooms. We are covering a chunk of the house cost to make it reasonable and all food. It is cheaper than renting a hotel room and buying food for those days.

For us, it creates fair exchange for the rooms and things included. It also provides a sense of responsibility so people don't trash the house. Not that they would, just a little added security. I'm also okay with the rude feedback. It's what fits for our situation.

Trust yourself, you know what you want and what will work for you, "rude" or not.

It makes sense to me if it's available only for bridal party or family but anyone else should just get a hotel room IMO.

This is only okay if it's completely optional. If it's part of your contract, then, no, not okay.

If it comes with the venue, I would feel awkward asking money from guests.

If it is optional I would ask for a discount on the venue if you do not choose to use it.

I know I looked into renting a house and was dead set on having my intimate wedding there. Then I came to my senses and realized people will treat this like a vacation and probably want to choose where they stay and would like more privacy than a home could offer.

If it is just for VIPs (wedding party and immediate family), and it is optional, I think this is okay.

My friend did this and it worked out great. She just said "If you want to stay at the house we are renting, it's $X per night." Their renting it wasn't dependent on us being there, but it did make sense for all of us to stay together for transportation, getting ready, etc. We just venmo'ed the money to her. I never thought it was weird. I would have been put out if it was required though.

I'm doing something similar in Spain. It is a bed and breakfast (Guests have the option to pay the venue directly, but this is logistically not feasible since it is all in Spanish, which my US guests don't speak.). So FH and I are rent out all the rooms ourselves, and having the guests pay us directly. We also get a large discount on all the rooms that way. However, they are in no way obligated to stay there, but I think all of them will be.

This is borderline rude but 100% awkward. No thanks

Yes

If you want to stay in the estate house and extend the option to others then you need to foot the whole bill

If you're merely letting them know it's open and acting as a coordinator in terms of connecting the proper number of folks then know

Sorry you don't get to ask your guest to pay for your accommodations or your honeymoon

Are you paying the same to the venue regardless of whether or not anyone stays in the house? Or do you pay for the estate house per room similarly to a hotel?

If the former is true - I would just offer free lodging to VIP guests (wedding party, immediate family). I think if the rooms are part of your venue fee then it is inappropriate to ask guests to reimburse you for something you are paying no matter what. If the latter is the case and you pay extra for each room that is booked at the house - then I think it is okay to let people know that they have the option to book a room at the estate and have them pay.

None of our wedding party is local and we found an awesome BnB with a great price (no more expensive than a hotel) that can accommodate every member of the wedding party (and us) and they each get their own room. This is separate from our venue. It's going to work out perfectly for the weekend since we will all be in one place for rehearsal, getting ready, first look and pictures with them, etc. In this case, all rooms are the same as far as comfort goes and we let them choose among themselves. We used our card to "hold" all of the rooms and they will separately pay for the rooms 1 month prior. It works for us and our WP is happy we worked out accommodations for them.

I thnk if it's included in your venue cost and you have to pay it regardless, unless it's the WP and close family, it's optional, and they can pay the venue directly, don't do it.

I don't consider it rude. It's the same difference as staying at the hotel in my opinion. It's just a more convenient option for them

This depends.

Is it part of the venue fee...as in those are your rooms if you use them or not?

Could these rooms be rented to random people while your wedding is there?

If you are already paying for these rooms as part of your venue fees, then yes, it is rude to ask people to pay for them. I personally would offer them up to my closest of guests or the bridal party.

If they are not part of the venue and you would rather have friends and family there instead of random strangers, then yes, get the word out that these rooms are available on property as first come first serve, so book as soon as possible if you would like to stay on site, but they should be able to book the room and pay on their own.

How would the rooms be booked? If they are booked through a website or the venue directly, it's reasonable for them to pay. If the cost is built into your venue rental charge, no way jose do you charge them.

Here's another thing....do you WANT to share a house the weekend of your wedding? Random people?