Asking guest for money for accommodations

If you're giving people the option of staying there, sort of like a hotel block, it's not rude. But if they have to pay for it to attend your wedding otherwise, then yeah it's rude to make them pay

It's not rude if it is offered to your guests as an option. If it is their only choice for accommodation, and you are asking them to rent rooms, essentially from you, so you get a wedding venue, then it's a no.

Extremely rude.

I feel like it's somewhere between rude and awkward.

If it's included, offer it as an option for VIPs maybe or others that might need the accommodation. If it's extra, you could ask people to pay, like blocking a hotel.

If it part of the venue great great but you can as well suggest it to your guests

Even if you just offer this to guests, I see a potential for hurt feelings. What if more than 18 people want to stay there? How do you prioritize who gets to stay with you? Do all rooms have private baths? Can they accommodate children? I think you need to think about these things.

If it's required in your venue contract, then yes. It would be rude to ask them to pay for it. If it's completely separate and essentially just another block, then it's fine.

If it is included in the venue fee then it is rude. Offer it to your VIPs free of charge. If it costs extra then see if you can set it up like a hotel block.

I think you can finesse this. See if the venue doesn't have a way to break it up to bill appropriately by room. Then phrase it like, "While we have a block of rooms available for a preferred rate at a local hotel, there are a limited number of rooms available at the venue itself."

Yes

Is it a bed and breakfast type place that is typically a hotel? If they will handle all money matters I see no issue, it's just like any other hotel block. I would offer them to VIP guests first (bridal party and family) and then offer to others.

If the venue doesn't handle the payment it gets trickier. In that case I would offer to family but outside of family gets a little weird.

If there's a way to have guests book directly through the venue is fine. Asking people to reimburse you gets a little sticky.

We came across many venues with this option and felt it was so odd that the venues had no way of handling the booking. I'm talking about accommodations for 100 people. We walked away from this type of arrangement because it would be awkward to ask each guest for the money and way too expensive for us to cover it.

A venue I really loved, a b&b, required that we rent the whole place out for the day before and night of the wedding. That would have been great, but I couldn't absorb the cost with our budget and it felt weird to obligate certain guests to stay at a particular place or go around asking them for money if they chose to stay there, so I ultimately passed on that.

I personally would pay to have our closest family have a place to stay.

You could also post it on your website under Accommodations and explain it fits up to 18. If possible have the venue handle the collection of money just as if it were a hotel. If it's something that requires you pay for the cost upfront then I wouldn't feel comfortable asking any guests to pay.

I don't feel like it's rude, if they are part of your wedding party or someone close to you, that perhaps you travel with frequently. But, if they are just any 'ol guest of yours, then yes, it's rude.

Are they paying you for the room or the venue directly?

I think it depends on how it's set up. If the rooms are their own additional fee or add on cost, then it's fine. If it's included in your total, then no.

I'm not the biggest fan of this. I mean if it's an option that's fine but if you're requiring people to stay there then absolutely not.

For our friend's wedding (FH was the best man) we were told that we were going to rent a house with the wedding the couple, MOH & her bf, bridesmaids and their SOs and the bride's parents "because it's cheaper than a hotel for all of us." We had absolutely no say in the accommodations (not even which bedroom we wanted) and we had to pay the same amount as everyone else sharing the house (which was $500-ish dollars which was a lot because we were dead broke and I was unemployed) even though we were leaving Sunday and everyone else was leaving until Tuesday. We weren't even told until we got there (were getting ready to fly back home actually) how much we owed them and we didn't have that kind of money, which put us in a very awkward position. We were also told not to rent a car to save money because they'd be renting a car and would shuttle us everywhere. They ended up arriving into town late so we got a ride from the groom's parents from the airport and then were "too tired and busy hosting brunch" to drive us to the airport when it was time for us to leave.

In the end it was a huge, expensive hassle and not convenient or within budget for anyone (or at least us as guests/wedding party members. It might have been easier on the couple though). So please take in not just day of travel and cost into consideration. Please consider travel and logistics throughout the whole weekend.

ETA spelling and clarification