Asking for my something borrowed

I was worrying the same thing about my SIL. I wasn't sure if a something borrowed had to be something somebody offered or if it's okay to ask.

Since she is your maid of honor and would maybe drop a hint like "I wish my something borrowed could be a veil" or something along those lines. If she is a good maid of honor she will immediately offer hers.

I would just ask her the worse she can say is NO.

I think it depends on how close you are and how important the piece is to them. I had no discomforts about asking my sister for a strand of pearls, but it wouldn't feel right asking my mom for my grandmother's wedding ring (which I would have liked).

With the veil being more expensive than her dress, she might be more protective of it, in the sense that she won't want it accidentally ruined (if it gets caught on something or you spill a drink). I don't think I'd even be comfortable borrowing for fear that something would happen to it.

I think if you just bring up the fact that you still need something borrowed with your closer friends/relatives, they might come up with an idea and offer.

I dunno, it sounds like you want the veil because it's expensive and beautiful. Your something borrowed should be sentimental, not cause you like it. If it was a veil passed down from generation to generation then that's a different story.

@Dorothy - I'm not sure if being a "good maid of honor" actually entails offering something so expensive. Actually, I am sure, and it doesn't.

I think if someone asked me, I might feel obligated to say yes, even though I didn't really want to.

I would just ask! But only wear it for ceremony and find another hair piece for dance

"hey MOH! I really loved your veil and I think the pearls and crystals would match my gown well. I was wondering if you'd consider loaning it to me as my something borrowed. I only plan to wear it for pics and ceremony and then I'll carefully wrap it up and give it back. If not, I completely understand, but I thought I'd ask! Thanks!"

I appreciate all the feedback! I think I'll try to subtly bring it up the next time we grab coffee. It's true, the worst that could happen is she says no!

The worst that can happen is that she says yes, you borrow it, and something happens to it.