Asking about bringing babies

I think that's a great way to approach it for them! They will definitely appreciate you keeping their newborn and their comfort needs in mind. But you'll need to keep in mind that other friends/family may be hurt or upset that they can't bring their children. My family has so many children it was impossible to not have them. But our planner assured if they're younger than a certain age we wouldn't be charged for them. So we're planning kid activities besides dancing! We're going to make goodie bags and coloring pages and finding other distractions so the parents can also enjoy the night.

Most parents bring whatever they need, but making sure there is a nursing area that is not sitting on a toilet in the bathroom, and a changing area would be very thoughtful.

Our family are bringing their children - but we invited children in circles and no friends are bringing children. I don't see an issue with that as it's not singling anyone out.

I'm just not sure how I/or FH should go about asking to make sure there is room if they need it. Having 3 babies for this group of friends would result in a new table - which is fine, but if there aren't babies then the tables would look awkwardly empty if I spread out this group of friends.

Ask them if they're bringing their newborns and if there's anything you can do to make them (newborns) feel comfortable. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Also, I agree with the first response. Be prepared to deal with parents (of children who were NOT invited) being offended.

Definitely make sure there's a changing area that isn't the floor/bathroom counter. Also as PP said, somewhere for them to nurse that isn't the bathroom (Bridal suite, an office...).

Other than that I always brought everything I needed wherever we went. (I wasn't nursing so I typically needed to bring a cooler or be somewhere with a fridge because I was pumping)

Just text them and ask! Or have your FH do it since they're not friends of yours.

Just ask. I'm sure they'd appreciate it.

"I'm looking forward to seeing you and baby at the wedding! Is there anything in particular that you'd need? Would you need a chair for the carrier? I want to make sure everyone, even the tiniest guests, are comfortable."

Other than the things that others mentioned (changing area and private room to nurse) there's no special accommodations that I can think of that I'd need. I keep ice packs in the cooler to make sure milk is kept cold when we go out. If they're still in infant carriers, just leave an empty chair there. I would end up taking baby out of the carrier and leaving the empty carrier on the chair.

Do people bring newborns to wedding receptions? I am not a mother so perhaps it's purely ignorance but I'm just picturing a loud room not being the greatest for a very small baby? If I had just had a baby I think I would just assume maybe I couldn't go to the wedding.

Your wedding is in like 3 weeks, right? I'm sure they all assume it's okay to bring their baby.

Y'all. OP isn't asking if it's rude for the babies to be there. She's asking how she should go about asking if any accommodations would be needed and if they'd need an extra seat for the baby's things. If so, they'd need to make space in the seating chart.

"Also, I agree with the first response. Be prepared to deal with parents (of children who were NOT invited) being offended."

Offended about what? Children are like any other guest. You don't have to invite them all. If I invite my goddaughter to my wedding, that does not mean I have to invite my co-workers children. Also, newborn babies are an exception to the no-kids rule anyway. In fact, it would be rude not to invite the baby of a nursing mother, especially if the mother is a relative or VIP. People understand that.

We've been invited to and attended 5 weddings, since our now toddler was born. She wasn't invited to nor attended any of them, including her uncle's.

For the one where she was just a couple of months old, the band was so freaking loud, that half the guests ended up in the cocktail hour room, to avoid feeling like their brain was going to explode.

We told our one guest, with a 2 month old, that she could bring him to our wedding. She declined. Our venue counted any infant and older baby, who wasn't carried in a sling, as part as the occupancy and required a chair.

Thanks for the responses.

I don't know if I would want to bring a baby/newborn to a wedding - as I'm not currently a parent- but I know some may want/need to. One parent isn't even able to go to her yoga class at this point as the baby hasn't been without her for any feeding yet - and I would hate for her to feel like we're not supportive of her or the baby's needs.

We are about 250 people below the max occupancy of our venue, and we aren't charged for children - so that's not a concern for us.

We decided to make room at the tables, in case they do say yes so there won't be a crowded feeling for anyone.