As a MOH, how much am I expected to pay for with the Bachelorette party?

Are there other girls in the bridal party? Maybe you can all split it, that's what I've done in past bp's.

There are only two other girls in the bridal party. Do you think it's okay to split the costs with them?

I attended a bachelorette weekend last year where I was not in the bridal party, but all of us girls split the cost equally so that the bride did not pay for anything. You should talk to the other girls and see if they are ok with splitting costs.

Ooh, that's good to know. Thanks!

I attended a bachelorette party of a friend, but was not in her wedding party. The hosts asked that everyone in attendance chip in $20 for booze and food. The party was pretty low key and at a friends house. I honestly thought the $20 was a little steep for a party at home because we also all brought dishes to share and there was a ridiculous amount of alcohol left over that the host kept.

I would just make sure that you talk to everyone beforehand to make sure that what you have planned will also fit in their budget.

So how did this all go down? Did your friend say this is what you guys are doing or did anyone offer to host?

Really it's up to the host to choose activities that she and the rest of the bridal party can afford. My girls wouldn't let me pay for anything at my bachelorette party, but I didn't expect them to! I think it's kind of the norm, but the bride shouldn't be telling you what you're doing and expect you to foot the whole bill.

Typically at a bachelorette party, ALL the guests split the cost. For example, everyone added a few more bucks for dinner so the bride didn't pay for her meal. I think that's pretty standard. Of course, there might be someone who doesn't want to put in but usually its not a big deal! I think just let girls know ahead of time that's the plan. Also, if you plan on going out I'm sure girls will take turns buying rounds and other people at the bar may buy drinks as well! I know at my bachelorette party, my friends chipped in for my dinner and drinks but I also paid for my own drinks at the bar (I didn't want to be mooching off my friends!).

I've hosted 1 bachelorette party and have attended 5 bachelorette parties in the past couple years (3 of them I was part of the bridal party and 2 I was not). I would never expect the MOH to pay for the whole party and it was generally understood that everyone would split that cost for everything including the bride's portion of things so that the bride did not have to pay for anything. I'm not sure if that is what is most common or just the general understanding between my friends, so I would double check with the rest of the girls and ask them about their budget.

When I hosted the bachelorette, the only thing I didn't ask the rest of the girls to split with me were the party favors I bought for everyone which were just personalized tumblers and mini hangover kits.

I think whoever is attending should split the cost with you. Every girl pay an equal share, except for the bride.

I was MOH for sisters wedding and we let the other guests know upfront what the estimate would be- sushi and drinks at the buildings social room , uber to nightclub and table with bottle service.

Most paid in advance and others that night.

I paid extra for decor, game prizes (Sephora goodies), boas , and plates/napkins/champagne flutes etc.

If you are determining more that day then divide up the brides cost and add to each girls bill and maybe make a fun bar crawl and each bar a girl chooses a round of drinks their treat.

As I understand it, those attending usually chip in and help pay for some of it. It's tough when the bride has a big vision that not everyone can really afford to do. What you planned sounds perfect and I think she will really enjoy it. See if the other girls are able and willing to chip in a bit to help cover the cost.

I mean it totally depends on the bride, but myself personally I don't want my girls paying anything more than they can afford and want to spend. Whatever they plan within that range is totally cool with me

I was a MOH and we went to New Hampshire for the weekend in February. Although there were 7 bridesmaids 15 total people attended the bachelorette. We split the cost among all 15 people and it ended up costing around $200 a person which included a personal chef we hired as well as tubing and seeing the ice castles, and the condo rental.

I would price it out and ask the ladies attending to split the costs with you. You could do/pay for some extras with the other BP members if you want, but you definitely don't have to.

I threw a bachelorette party for a coworker and best friend. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding. (insert all those costs there too) We rented a party bus, and about 25 of our coworkers came and everyone paid $25 towards renting the bus. They also brought their own alcohol for the bus (we went club hopping and to dinner on the bus). We met at my house at the beginning, where I had spent about $150 to make sangria for everyone. I bought a $30 cake and a sexy ken doll looking topper. I bought hot pink water bottles for everyone from Dollar Tree and painted the "Big Bus Bachelorette Bash" logo on them. I bought balloons and ring confetti and fun napkins and pink glow necklaces and feather boas and beads for everyone and hired my sibling that is a professional photographer to take pics. I bought her a custom sash on Etsy. It was a gorgeous party. I went overboard and spent over $1500 on all of this. Was it amazing? Yes. Did everyone talk about it for months? Yes. But not necessary. I could have done much much less.

Ask the other attendees if they are willing to chip in and help out. Chances are, they will. Even if everyone just chips in $30 etc.

Every little bit helps.

BTW, I haven't heard from her more than three times this year. She got married, moved away, and never calls me. She's too busy I guess

Whose idea was it? Did they have a plan for who would pay?

Oh, yeah, you're supposed to pick up her tab for everything she's requested -- everything she consumes -- her meals -- her accommodations, etc. It's supposed to be split between all of the attendants, but frankly, I think the whole thing is ridiculous. You have women with children, women in graduate school, and women who are robbing Peter to pay Paul. Sorry, I may be in the minority, but I've always thought the bachelorette party was planned by the bridal party. I didn't get the memo announcing that a bachelorette party was an opportunity for the bride-to-be to tell her attendants that she wants more than a party -- she wants an entire weekend on their dime. An afternoon at a winery isn't enough; she wants nights spent in bars and hotels. She wants the weekend to end with some kind of tea ceremony. This whole entitlement attitude really bothers me. A bachelorette party is not the time for a bride to write her letter to Santa. She has chosen the women who mean the most to her -- her honor attendants -- and it is up to them -- totally up to them -- to plan and pay for a party they can afford without being short on their own rent or utilities. Secondly, a bachelorette party doesn't require more than a single party. A weekend? Unless your attendants are very wealthy women, leave them alone and be happy about the party they plan at a bar or club. One night. Seriously, some of this entitlement stuff is ridiculous.

I'm sorry, but I do not think that you or the rest of the bridal party should have to pay for the bride's ENTIRE weekend. That is ridiculous.

Yes, splitting the cost for her dinner and a drink or two on the main night is nice. But lunch, dinner, breakfast the next day, and all of her drinks when you go out?? NO. That's over the top and the bride should never expect that. She does not get an entire weekend paid for by her bridal party.

ETA - just read Centerpiece's post and I completely agree!

I am co hosting a bachelorette party for my BFF, she is not having a bridal party. She wanted to go to Vegas and requested a pool day with cabana, and night out. The brides sister paid for her airfare, I am covering the brides portion of the hotel suite and had hotel credits to cover the cabana. We are all splitting the hotel suite and night out total for the events was $404, it was within budget and everyone in the group had no problem splitting the costs. The bride is paying only her portion for the night out.

Im still curious, was this all the brides idea?

You aren't required to plan a bachelorette party at all. If you do, then either you pay for it yourself, or you talk to other people (typically the wedding party) about whether they want to host something and share the cost. If it's jointly hosted by the wedding party, then you have to check on what their budgets are. There is no way that all the activities should have been planned out already, without figuring out where the money was coming from.

Pay what you can afford, and you can ask the others, but don't get angry if they can't afford it either.

I think driving and buying a bottle of wine is enough. I'm also in the camp that the bride shouldn't expect everyone to pay for everything.

A few years ago, I was invited to a bachelorette spa weekend. It was in my city, but the MOH got a nice hotel room, and we were expected (there were maybe 8 of us invited) to pay for the bride's hotel room, her meals, and all her spa packages, PLUS whatever we wanted. I politely declined that party.