Our wedding ceremony and venue will be in the city - 25 minutes away from where we (and our families) live. The church and venue are 5 miles apart. I always thought that the rehearsal dinner would consist of people in the wedding party, including immediate families. I imagine it to be much more intimate than the actual wedding party reception. My fiancé's mother has eagerly taken over the rehearsal dinner. Fiancé and I originally wanted to do an airbnb near the church and just do a casual bbq. When we told her, she freaked out and said, "what? bbq? costco food?!" Now, I'm hearing that she wants the rehearsal dinner to be back home at her house (backyard)...AWAY from the ceremony and venue site. The guest list isn't just limited to the wedding party but all of my fiancé's family here, out of town, and staying at their house. So we would all drive to the city for rehearsal at the church, drive 25-30 minutes up North for rehearsal dinner (pretty much have a big party), then drive all the way down South to the hotel.
I just didn't picture that much driving the day before and I was hoping it would be more chill and we'd see ALL our guests ON the wedding day, not during rehearsal. Fiancé keeps saying, "well, they're paying for it." I'm trying not to get stressed about it bc it's her only thing she can control (even though she tries to passively control the wedding) but I find it more of a hassle, when we're all trying to keep everything low-key. Advice?