Are you supposed to give both a shower and wedding gift?

We give both

I agree with others on giving both. If they're having a shower to start their home together, give a gift for that. I think that cash at the wedding is always appreciated!!

A gift for a shower and a gift for wedding

Agree with PPs, you'll want to give a gift for each event you attend.

Sometimes I buy a big arsed shower gift and make it the wedding gift as well. Usually we do a registry gift for the shower and cashimoto for the wedding.

I've found this to be very regional but I am strongly on team you give a gift to both. Usually registry gift for shower and money for wedding.

I'm from Arizona but live in the south now and all my southern friends say they (and most everyone they know) give gifts to the shower only and not the wedding.

My church in Arizona is southern baptist and there are a lot of people from the south that attend and the southern ones who attended our wedding all brought a card and gifts to my shower and came without a card or gift to the wedding.

I give a boxed gift at the shower ($50-$100 range) and cash at the wedding ($200-$250 range).

Two separate gifts! The shower gift should be a physical gift off of the couples registry and many people frequently spend less on the shower gift than they do on the wedding gift.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/etiquette-advice/8-things-every-wedding-guest-should-know-about-gift-giving

It's two separate things. I spend $50 on a shower gift and then $100pp on a wedding gift generally. More if I'm closer with the couple.

I'm in the South...and got pretty much no gifts or cards from anyone who attended a pre-wedding event, where a gift was given. The only gifts/cards/money we got AT the wedding was from people who didn't attend any pre wedding events. I generally try to pick smaller shower gifts and do something a little bigger as a wedding gift-but that's just me because I like to give gifts. its def not the norm in my circle to give both...

I always do both - gift for the shower and cash for the wedding.

I am from the Northeast and I have only experienced that you should give a gift at both if you attend both. It is also customary to send a shower gift even if you cannot make it to the shower, if you plan on going to the wedding. The only exception is if you are helping plan the shower, then you don't have to give a gift. A gift from the registry for the shower, and cash at the wedding in the amount of what you guess (or have heard) that you and your plus one's plate cost (you can also infer based on the venue and the couple). In this day and age, and in the Northeast, I wouldn't give any less than $100 per person (you and your plus one) as a cash wedding gift, no matter your relation to them, as I have never heard of a wedding being less than that per person, in our area. If it is someone you are close to that should also increase the amount given. I have also known some guests to include a smaller monetary gift with their RSVP even if they cannot attend the wedding, although this is definitely not expected, it is seen as a very warm and generous gesture when you have to regretfully decline.

100% agree.