Are you supposed to give both a shower and wedding gift?

You give both, or in some cases 1 large gift. The Best man and his wife purchased us a large gift and gave it to us at one of our showers. Its something we will use a lot in the summer so they wanted us to have it before the summer started.

I always give gifts at both, if I go to both.

I always give both. Smaller for the shower, and larger for the wedding.

You give both.

Both! A lot of people give a gift at the shower and then cash at the wedding.

Definitely give a gift at each occasion if you are invited to both! It's not *technically* required to give anything, but in reality it is super rude to forego a gift if you attend the wedding/

Keep your total gift budget in mind when choosing a shower gift. For example, if you plan on spending $100 total on wedding-related gifts, maybe get a $20 item for the shower and then give $80 at the wedding.

Shower gifts are smaller and less expensive, also sometimes themed like date night, or kitchen. They do not replace a wedding gift. In some social circles, wedding gifts more often are cash or check, than physical gifts, although both are proper.

Both. Exactly what Jenny said is what I do.

Your mother is confused. The shower and the wedding are two different events. You give a shower gift AT the shower. You bring another gift to the wedding. The norm is money, but one guest gifted me jewelry, my sister gave us candles. When I got back from my HM, a guest who didn't bring a gift to the wedding sent us something off of my registry.

I have always given both. Usually something off their registry for their shower and then cash for the wedding gift. I do think it is regional though as I know some people who have never heard of giving a wedding gift if they gave a shower gift.

If I attend both, I do gift for shower and cash for wedding.

I always give both if I attend both.

Both

You give both if you go to both. I usually give a actual gift for the shower and cash for the wedding.

Both - Usually a physical gift at the shower and a monetary gift at the wedding. They're two different events, therefore two different gifts

I've given to both since they are 2 separate hosted events.

I always give both- something from the registry for the shower and $ for the wedding

Technically one does not have to give a gift at a wedding. A wedding is not considered a gift giving event. According to proper etiquette (Old school Emily Post and Miss Manners), you only have to give "best wishes" to the couple.

However, most people these days give a gift for both the shower and the wedding. Where I'm from, we give a boxed gift at the shower and cash at the wedding.

Yes, two gifts.

It might be regional.

I give a gift for the shower and cash for the wedding. Some might do a large gift for both. One of our guests bought all of our dishes and service pieces. That's her shower & wedding gift combined.