Are You Still Friends With Your Ex?

I am friends with one, we get along well for the family we share. My most recent ex we tried but when he found out I was getting married, he got upset over petty things and stopped talking to me. I guess we had different reasons for "friendship" that I didn't realize.

View Quoted Comment

Oh okay, that's understandable.

View Quoted Comment

Would you say you and your exes are mature enough to move forward with a friendship even though your relationship didn't work out OR that you and your exes were never really in love so a platonic friendship is possible?

View Quoted Comment I thought I was in love at the time.

We are mature enough to be adults.

We were not necessarily compatible as a couple in the first place... or we were too young.

View Quoted Comment

It sounds like you most recent ex is still in love with you.

View Quoted Comment

Oh, I see. Thanks for clarifying.

On a whole, I think it's usually a bad idea. Most ex's eventually become toxic for each other for one reason or enough (either before or after the split). Only ones I know who really make it were were good friends before and they realized they were more platonic than romantically together.

Nope! No thank you!!

View Quoted Comment

I wouldn't say that I'm friends with any of my exes but I can be cordial with most of them. Similar to you I have a few exes who became toxic or were still in love with me so I can't even associate with them anymore.

View Quoted Comment

Do you care to share more on this?

View Quoted Comment

Yeah. The worst was walking about from a 5 year long friendship. We tried so hard to be friends initially, and it looked like it was working. We were high school sweethearts that aged-out, but had both stabilized each other through difficult households. Our romantic interest had been fizzling for a long time, so it seemed like we might end up with this brother/sister(ish) thing in our golden years...

Well, when I started trying to move on in earnest and he was struggling with it, we started dragging each other down. I cut him off before we could make matters worse. It really hurt walking away from that friendship. Led to the hardest bounce-back and a horridly toxic re-bound.

Thank goodness my 20's are over and I re-met my husband when I was finally climbing myself out of that non-sense!

View Quoted Comment

Thank goodness for growth.

View Quoted Comment

Absolutely.... boy did today's topics take me down memory lane :-P

View Quoted Comment

I know my topics can be a little controversial but I think they lead to great discussions. 😉

View Quoted Comment

I was in the same situation with my ex. I finally realized he wasn't a good person and I was only with him because I didn't want to be alone. I was also in a bad place at the time I started dating him. If I saw in him public it would take all of my strength to not punch him in the face.

View Quoted Comment

It's a good thing you found your husband

View Quoted Comment

Yes it was! In a way my husband saved my life because I was going no where and was in a bad place mentally. I love my life now and I am so happy to get away from my ex.

View Quoted Comment

Awwww! I love that he makes you so happy!

View Quoted Comment

I'm happily married I have no need to stay on contact with an ex. They are an Ex for a reason.

View Quoted Comment 👏👏👏👏👏 I love this!