I'm just wondering about this. When I spoke to friends who got married in their 20s, they either paid nothing or paid very little. We are paying for it ourselves (but not opposed to family help but no one offered lol). We're an older couple and it's the first marriage for both of us (I'm late 30s and he's early 40s). When I said I was engaged, I thought maybe my parents would have brought up the costs but they never did. (my parents are both retired so I'm not going to ask them to help). My fiance and I were originally planning to not go over $25,000 (for everything), and then decided to make it under $10,000 for everything to have more in savings. It would have been nice to have gotten married young because I think my parents would have paid when I was a young maid. I guess maybe it's worth it to us because my mother is insane and would want to be a part of all the planning having a say if she gave some $$.