Are we too old???

I think it’s the perfect thing to do

I don't think it's stupid at all!! I say go for it!!

Love knows no bounds...that includes age. My goodness, PLEASE go all out and have the wedding (and marriage) of your dreams!

I am 45, my Husband is 55, and it’s been three months since we wed. We didn’t give it a second thought about going the whole nine yards. My son and daughter walked me down the aisle. We went on an amazing honeymoon, too! We are still reliving it all. We have no regrets.

Live your dreams. 😘

I agree with each an everyone of the pp... that s is my FH first marriage and my second my first was at the courthouse everything was all wrong with that day an marriage I too often have to pinch myself because I finally got my knight in shining armor!!! Do it big sweetheart the memories you create will be priceless enjoy your lives together

You’re never too old to do something special with the one you love most. Have your dream wedding with your sweetheart!!!

Not stupid at all. You deserve the day you have been wanting. If this is what will make you both happy, then go for it and enjoy!

Go for it! I'll be 55 years old and FH, will be 58 when we get married on October 13, 2018.

Some of the smaller traditions of weddings are silly for mature people, like pretending everyone is still a virgin, or tossing a bouquet or garter with a message that this friend will be next to snag a spouse, .And showers or bachelorette rowdiness are not appropriate. But the celebration of any marriage justifies a lovely wedding., and lesser parties to introduce family and friends, or luncheon or supper and a show with friend, all are great. The spring after my marriage, my grandmother, then 69 and a widow of 2 marriages, alone more than ten years after 30 together, announced her engagement to a man she met while visiting an elderly cousin. . A complete unknown. A 70 year old fisherman. From Labrador. Her own great aunt, her grandmother's much younger sister, and her aunt, her mothers youngest sister, one of her daughters, and one great granddaughter, were the wedding party And zI her granddaughter, MOH. Which caused a lit of commentary among parents of granddaughters not chosen. Always, something bothers somebody. And on a chartered boat on Rive St Laurent, off Quebec, speaking before starting dinner before the wedding, she said, don't think I haven't heard you sniping about ( me). Well I love all of you, I never played favorites. But when I told her I was getting married, she never said I was too old, she never told me I could not get used to being a subsistence fisherman and hunters wife to an old man was not something I would get used to. She never said, In Labrador? You're crazy. She said, grandmother, have you finally filled that big hole in your life? And I said, yes, I am happy now. And she told me, grandmother , you can marry him on one condition, that he gives us an open invitation to visit you in Labrador any time, and a key so we can stay warm in the house waiting for you to come in to the dock. I truly think at any age, within boundaries of not bankrupting yourselves, you deserve to have the wedding you want, and to have your spouse accepted without reservation by people, just because you chose him. Go for it.

As long as you can afford it - GO FOR IT! Love is to be celebrated!!!

It’s not stupid at all! It’s your special day when you marry the man you love. You deserve your dream wedding!

You should get the wedding of your dreams

Cheryl! Quit doubting. You deserve to celebrate love & marriage any way you like...at any age! 💕 I was a 1st bride in my 40’s and my wedding was so different and much better now than I could have dreamed in my 20’s. You have a man who wants you to create your dream wedding, which is amazing!!! Celebrate that. 😁

It’s not stupid at all! You don’t have to be young or old to get married. Have the wedding you have always wanted with the man of your dreams and besides, you’ll be more prepared than us youngins

All of the posts are so warm and heartfelt! It's like having a WW family!
Obviously if you've looked at my profile picture you'll see it's an interracial marriage and surprisingly it's my youngest daughter who is really upset, not only is she upset with that but my divorcing her step-father of 34 years. That was over 5 years ago.
I guess it's hard for children no matter what the age to have the parents divorce. He, my ex was happy. I on the other hand was miserable for many many years. By protraying the happy wife I had my family convinced I was happy. So when I got the courage to finally leave at 62 I was eliminated from their lives. My two oldest children understood, but my youngest who had been like my second skin turned on me. Just recently she has started to speak to me, but it is guarded. I don't know what may send her off.
So, until I asked for your feedback my concern of being stupid about a traditional wedding, has been compounded with being protective of my FH's feelings. And by the way I have a biracial son. He was an oops while in the Air Force. The best oops I could ever imagine!! So where her problem comes from with me and my FH is beyond me, and honestly very upsetting and disappointing!
Okay, enough for this post that turned into a novella!
And again, thank you for helping me to see we're not to old to have a wedding!!!

Have your wedding! My mother & stepfather are having their wedding in the upcoming year, and plan on having a real wedding. They are both 60. They can afford it though, so it won't cause any strain. If you want to and can afford it, do it for sure.

Congratulations! You are never too old to celebrate love! I am 44 and FH will be 51 when we get married and we are having a lovely, elegant affair. Everything my first wedding wasn't (and FH is everything my fist husband wasn't THANK GOD!). I joke to people that your first wedding is for your parents and your second wedding is the one you always wanted

Don't let any of the drama get you down. Enjoy your day!

This is NOT stupid AT ALL!! It’s your wedding! If it will make you happy you should ABSOLUTELY do it.

I am having the opposite problem... FH and I are in our low 20s and people keep asking why we are having a big fancy wedding (it’s really not even, we have 100 people and 15k budget) because we are so young and why don’t we just have a courthouse wedding and have a big party when we’re older?

This stuff frustrates me to no end, I don’t understand why anyone’s age should affect the celebration of their love! Of course I have nothing against smaller simpler weddings if certain people want that, but you should do what you want, and your age should not be a factor!

View Quoted Comment It's a shame that society, including some family and friends think they have so much to say regarding what we should or shouldn't do when it comes to our wedding, our age, our anything!!!
Why should you have a "celebration" when you're older??? Define older?!
I'm older, much older, and had uneasiness about my age particularly and having a wedding!!
After all the comments, I've had time to read and reflect. This is his 1st marriage. Not only will it be my dream wedding, but a very special day for him as well. We are entitled to share our happiness with our friends and family, as are you! Your age be damned!
Yes we could have had a court house ceremony and it would have made us husband and wife, but we both wanted the traditional wedding. He said this is his first and last so go for it...lol
Enjoy life while you can. It is much to short to put off until tomorrow what can be done today!
The old and the young should do there thing!!!

View Quoted Comment VERY well said! I hope you have a wonderful wedding, and much congratulations to you both!

It's not stupid at all. Celebrate your love! If you can afford it, then go for it! Whoever tells you no doesn't have your best interest at heart! It's nice that you've found someone who makes you happy. Why shouldn't that be celebrated?!