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Are we being selfish?

locolorenzo, on June 18, 2010 at 10:19 PM

Posted in Planning 24

So, our shower is tomorrow, and all along our MOH has not done ANYTHING for this wedding besides order a dress. Our matron of Honor has done quite a bit. We understand our MOH lives 5 hours away, but the only thing we really wanted was for her to attend the shower. She just got engaged last month,...

So, our shower is tomorrow, and all along our MOH has not done ANYTHING for this wedding besides order a dress. Our matron of Honor has done quite a bit. We understand our MOH lives 5 hours away, but the only thing we really wanted was for her to attend the shower.

She just got engaged last month, and used some line about it being Father's day weekend that she really needed to spend time with her dad...which we understand..but you really can't come for the one day or spend time with your dad the next weekend? She lives at home, BTW with mom and dad.

My bride is understandably upset, and I am too. I just don't know how to bring it up without blowing a huge hole in things between them. I told my bride to have another talk with her, which she wanted me to have because if she called her "she'd know I am upset." Well if I call her, I'm going to be upset too.

any suggestions? lol.

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  • Carolyn Shepard
    Carolyn Shepard ·
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    Yes. You are both are being incredibly selfish.

    What has been said here thus far is absolutely how I feel too. Why in the world would you both be upset about something so trivial?

    My advice is that you both need to take a step back and think about your reactions. It's a just a wedding shower. Fathers are much more important. Just ask anyone who has *been one*, or has *HAD* a good one. ; )

    IMO, Weddings in some ways are a lot like your children. They may be the center of *your universe* but the are not the center of *the* universe...

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  • Kathy
    Master July 2010
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    Planning any type of event on a holiday (no matter how big or small the holiday) is always risky.

    Fathers Day is important to many people and if the MOH wants to spend it with her father, you should honor that. Someday, you will want your child to spend Fathers Day with you too. :-)

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  • Not-A-Bridezilla
    Master May 2010
    Not-A-Bridezilla ·
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    Oh god... flowerchick... *SHHHHHHHHH*

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  • Carolyn Shepard
    Carolyn Shepard ·
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    ^Hmmmm. He asked.

    My comments were no different than anyone elses here.

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