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Monica
Devoted May 2016

Are veils only for religious ceremonies?

Monica, on April 12, 2016 at 10:58 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 34

So my fiancée and I are going to get married in a small outdoor ceremony, but it is not religious. A friend of ours is getting married and I already have a veil, but now all my family is telling me that veils are traditionally just for the religious ceremony. How true is this?

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Latest activity by Hannah, on June 21, 2023 at 5:45 PM
  • S&P
    Master January 2017
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    I've never heard of this. I'm wearing a veil and I'm not having a religious ceremony.

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  • HoneyLife
    VIP October 2016
    HoneyLife ·
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    Its not true, wear the veil!

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    Ummm NO. I'm wearing a veil and I'm not getting married in a church.

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  • Celia Milton
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    No. Almost all my brides wear them!

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    No. Almost all my brides wear them!

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  • nautiwife
    VIP July 2016
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    I thought veils were just something for a wedding and nothing to do with religion. Wear it!

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  • Lauren17
    Master July 2017
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    No. Wear it.

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  • BrideMeg
    Super September 2016
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    No, veils are an accessory and if you want to wear one then do it.

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  • Cass
    Dedicated September 2016
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    IV never heard that . I think a Vail is just traditional.

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
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    Nope, I'm wearing one and I am not having a religious ceremony. Also like @vjgaff I'm taking it off during the reception.

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  • Jessi
    VIP October 2015
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    I had a secular outdoor ceremony and I wore a veil.

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  • Monica
    Devoted May 2016
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    Thank you ladies! Most most of my family is Catholic and they are kind of disappointed I'm not having a religious ceremony, but well, I will still rock my veil!

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  • AnnaKay
    Super June 2018
    AnnaKay ·
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    Not for religious ceremonies. I was told it represents innocence and purity for brides. So you can wear it if you would like to.

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  • Lorith
    Master May 2016
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    The tradition of the veil being lifted by the father as they reach the altar to prove the identity of the bride stems from a biblical story. Originally, the veil was not sheer and was lifted only after the 'I do's'.

    However the veil itself is not an EXCLUSIVELY religious tradition that I know of.

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
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    Ancient Greeks and Romans used it for superstitious reasons; they believed it would help protect the bride from evil spirits. It was also used in arranged marriages so that the groom wouldn't even see the bride's face until she was already at the altar.

    Judaism, Islam and Christianity all also have a long history of veiling, particularly at ceremonies. So traditionally, they're not wrong, in that it does have a religious origin and deeper meanings other than just being an accessory. There are some religious groups (including mine, I attend a church where it's common to veil at Mass) that veil for church, not just for weddings.

    But these days? Very few people know the history of veiling or will care about it.

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  • Samantha
    Super June 2016
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    Not true at all! We are getting married outside in our venue's garden and we are not religious at all and I am wearing a veil

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  • Caroline
    VIP September 2016
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    Like pp post said, if you want to wear the veil, do it!

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
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    I used to think the same! I was worried it'd be disrespectful so at first I wasn't going to wear one, but changed my mind after checking out pics of ceremonies at our venue and seeing that everyone wore a veil.

    I remember hearing comments like that in my family when I was younger, maybe it's an old Mexican custom? ETA: I meant that maybe it's an old Mexican custom to side-eye veils at non religious ceremonies.

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  • Monica
    Devoted May 2016
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    @VC lol I really think so! My grandma said that since I was most likely not a Virgin (since I live with my FH) and not getting God's blessing then I shouldn't be using one. Sorry grandma!!

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  • FutureMrsH
    VIP June 2017
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    As previous posters have said, it has religious roots, but doesn't necessarily mean the same now. I wouldn't think twice about a bride with a veil having a non-religious ceremony.

    I always heard that they were used in arranged marriages so that the groom wouldn't get to see the bride until after they were married. That way he couldn't run.

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