Are people trying to give you a guilt trip about not being invited?!

People who don't knowme have tried. When the conversation was over, they realized I am not easy to manipulate. I've seen too many couples stress out over the guest list and invite too many people and go over budget.

People can only make you feel guilty if you let them.

EVERY SINGLE DAY

I don't talk about my wedding on facebook except for the rare "It's going. Thanks!" and I STILL have people dropping hints.

I've had this happen more than a dozen times. If it is someone I could actually see inviting/I forgot to actually invite them and have to look at the guest list, I say "We'll have to see!" but if it someone I def. won't be inviting I say "I wish I could invite everyone I wanted, but our venue is very limited."

Just this one guy, and not to me, but to my mom. It's SO random. My dad used to work with his wife and they're still good friends. Years and years ago I babysat their kids for a week when the kids were on spring break. When he found out I was getting married he said to my mom, "are we invited? We should be, she watched my kids for a week". It was floored when she told me!

Ha to your FH!! I have stories about people inviting thenself or expecting to be invited. People who frequent weddings should know better. But my advice is be upfront ... We have a lot of family so they come first. If things open up ... Maybe. Invite those you WANT there. Best of luck! Don't sweat them!

Pshhh tell FH it's his business to tell those two guys, "I'm sorry but we don't have the room." It's a wedding, not a backyard BBQ where anyone can show up!

We are having a private ceremony and only a few close family members are invited. One of my friends is insisting that he come as we have always been close. He keeps bugging me about it but since the venue is small, and we aren't having any other friends, it would not really be appropriate to let him come. I've told him that we love him but it's just family. I'm worried he will show up to the ceremony and it will be super awkward.

My best friend for years and I fell out a few years ago after she got into an abusive relationship. After posting on here about whether or not to invite, I decided to not send an invite. Then she posted a photo on my fb saying that no matter how long it is since we've talked, no matter how we've grown apart, we are still and will always be friends. Part of me really feels like it's her way of trying to get an invite. Unless she starts talking to me though, she won't be getting one.

Some. Not on purpose though. I just wish I could have more guests.

I haven't had anyone try to guilt trip me, but FH tries to add more people all the time. At least once a week, he remembers someone else that he'd like to invite. I finally had to put my foot down because we're 50 people over where we wanted to be, and we're almost at the max for our venue. It's crazy how many people you wish you could invite. Our initial guess of 100-150 turned into 250 really fast...

My co workers do it to me every single day. i'm only inviting one person from my job...we have a no-fraternization policy too so technically i'm not allowed to invite anyone. but everyday i have to explain that no, i cant invite you because i don't have the money to invite you and i don't really know you. they have offered to pay their plate but again, i have to explain no. its annoying. im use to it already.

Work- I have one co-worker that keeps telling me she can't wait to party at the reception. One co-worker that keeps reminding me that she does not want to be invited. Neither of these people do I talk to outside of work. Associates that know my FH and I from our social organization - some inbox me on fb asking if they missed the wedding because they really want to come. And others asking "am I invited" I blow off all questions. I think its rude to ask if you are invited to wedding or beg for an invite. If you have to do either of those, I feel like you already know you aren't invited. I don't post anything on facebook about my plans. They will know when they see the pictures that will pop up on the wedding day.

We've been pretty good so far, but I know that once the warmer weather gets here and we start to see more of our "non-invited" guests they are going to question. FH, FMIL and My parents have all agreed we will simply respond with, "We have having a small wedding, and although we wish everyone could come, its just not feasible"

I know some wont take that hint, but I'll just keep repeating and rephrasing until there done asking.

And as far as the people FB msging you ladies, I would totally ignore!!

We have one friend that seems to think he's being invited. He blew off another one of our friend's wedding to go to a Bachelor party. Called them the night before to tell them he wasn't coming. We would have invited him if he hadn't done that. Not taking our chances. Most people have been very cordial about it.

I've been guilted by one aunt about the no children policy but the reason behind it is her kids so I've perfected the smile and nod. Also had a girl from HS comment on a few facebook statuses that she better be invited. ugh, no!

Yes! My MOH is trying to guilt me because I didn't invite her mom and son.

That happened a couple times by stupid people. They aren't getting an invite so they can suck it up 'cause I do not care!

I am lucky right now that I haven't gotten this flack. I also am kinda antisocial though with school and planning my wedding from a different state. I've gotten two people who've asked VERY politely about attending the wedding and that they were understanding if I couldn't accommodate them - which actually made me want to work them in.

I won't waste any energy by going into details, but HELL yeah!