April 27 wedding

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I hope you and your teams are safe and doing well. We will all get through this united!

This seems like ages from now. I'd say wait a couple weeks? We spent Sunday dismantling our wedding. Its stressful, but our venue and a rental place was accommodating... now we wait to see if our other vendors are as cool.

View Quoted Comment Good luck with everything. I'm keeping a watchful eye and have chosen an alternative date that we are prepared to move to.

We are in San Francisco, wedding in Big Sur was on 3/21, our venue cancelled, now trying to recover what we can in deposits and such. We are under a shelter in place order for 2 weeks minimum. I would not try to influence your decision one way or another, but encourage you to look at http://www.centerforhealthsecurity.org/resources/COVID-19/
And pay attention to the projections of how big this will become. It was not our choice to cancel our wedding, it would now be illegal for us to have it. Good luck

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry! Good luck and please be safe!!!

Honestly (and I promise I don't mean to be rude), but I absolutely think that it's selfish to not postpone... Having an event with 96-116 people within the next 8 weeks is a no go. In fact, they're now recommending no events with less than 10 people. Especially since you said there will be guests over 60, who are the most vulnerable! Venues that are caught holding such events will probably get their licenses revoked anyway and/or enormous fines. I would be really careful about this if your FH is in the hospitality industry--of course I don't know the details, but you could be jeopardizing his livelihood by disobeying the new rules re: no events over 50 people. In my city, they've issued huge fines to bars that have disobeyed the shutdown rule. More importantly, as other people have mentioned, you would put others at risk. Even if people feel healthy and don't display symptoms, they can still have the illness. The only chance we have at beating this is if people follow the CDC guidelines. Please postpone for the sake of humanity! Of course, I'm incredibly sorry that this has happened to you and I know this must be such a difficult decision.

I'm sorry about what you are going through. It must be unimaginably stressful.


Since you asked for input, I don't think your date is realistic. We're turning into Italy.
In my state, schools are closed. Bars are closed. Courts are closed now. They may reopen in 2 weeks, they may not.
By your wedding date, we're not likely going to be in the clear. Asking only healthy, young people to attend is putting on blinders. Asymptomatic people can be contagious too.
I wish you the best of luck.

I'm disheartened that an ER nurse would even ask this question.

View Quoted Comment I'm half I'm not the only one who felt this way. I was aghast at a lot of OPs responses. So irresponsible.

Ugh *glad not half

I'm a nurse as well, it sucks that this is happening with your wedding right around the corner. Mine is in July but it is still 50/50 for me too. Maybe you can cut it to 50 people and make the requirements? Let us know how it goes; if it were me I'd play it by ear too up to ending of March.

View Quoted Comment I think live-streaming is a great idea for those who cannot attend.

The venues in NJ moved around all weddings before May 11th. I wouldn't eliminate this chance in AZ. Check out my post here: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/how-to-postpone-your-wedding-lessons-learned-covid-19/ebaf03adb1adeb90.html

View Quoted Comment SAME. Honestly stunned.

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Thank you so much, mine are with you! We officially postponed until August 1, our venue was a dream to work with on this!

Waiting is acceptable

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Same here! Floored

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No. And as a nurse myself, I understand exactly where you are coming from. People are in panic mode, it's understandable as they see sickness differently than we do. We have a different relationship with it. We've walked through and experienced more. Decisions made in panic can change. It is possible a few more days is needed for a clearer picture. And I think you definitely have enough time to make a final decision.

Sadly, decisions based off emotion are harder to work through. Play it by ear. I paid for everything. I sent my people a notice that the wedding is continuing as plan and we will play it by ear but if they dont feel comfortable traveling we understand as we have family in NY which has a high infection count. Unfortunately I have 2 weeks before my wedding and 1 week to decide on postponements. We are strongly considering it due to the travel situation, and airport traffic jams due to screening. Number of family expressing doubt.

In the end we know this marriage will happen. We just have to adjust and considering hes a cop as well we already are prepared for exposure due to the very nature of our jobs. So we do understand concerns as well.

I say watch and wait. Learn your postponement deadlines so you know what window you have to work with. It will work out. This isn't our first rodeo. Stay safe.

In a world that is full of negativity, please be kind. I will never attack someone or be rude, I only ask the same of you. Thank you.

I just postponed my June 27th wedding to August 7th. The reality is this: you have every right to make the decisions that you do and others have every right to stay away. Do I think you loved ones feel it's fair for you to expect/hope for their attendance based on your opinion of their risks? I don't think they appreciate that. Is your wedding your choice- sure. If I were on your guest list I'd decline. I need to know I can get back home, I need to know that I won't give it to my mom and stepdad who are high risk, I need to know that I did my best to avoid this, and that I followed protocol. One person is responsible for 100 cases in Mass. I don't want to be the one person or one of the hundred. I really think a step back and some perspective would be most help. This isn't the most kind choice for your guests.